@Piper365 I wish i could help, but im struggling with that too.... i feel like when i do act the way i want and say what i think, it drives people away so i have to be careful, somewhat like walking on eggshells around people....i feel like a scared little girl and i want to be the strong confidant girl!

A dating expert said most people are lonely. It is not easy to make a connection with others. It is almost imporsiable to get some love for free. I have many good points, but I still have to pay to get some attentions.

I am sorry you are feeling this way, but I can relate to you to some point. I have also been having difficulties to connect with people. I think it is loneliness.

loneliness is awful I know. .
I've started to notice
so many people feel lonely inside. ..

I don't sleep very well as I get insomnia
& nights have become worse because everyone asleep
& I feel like a ghost pottering around in the silence for the night .

its a crazy world
we have technology phones etc
but yet over the generations
there seems to be far less connection
than the days that we didn't even have house phone

I wish I could give you an answer
in how to solve loneliness
but there is a breakdown of connection happening throughout..

@soul2soul thanks for the lovely poem! I think you're right...connection is breaking down! Except online where it's booming but how satisfying is this new connection? There's a website called secondlife.com and people create avatars and live there everyday for on average 4 hours every day. Some people feel that they can be more their true sleves there than in the real world.

@Piper365
I'm a lonely person.
you're in the right group!

It is sad to say that, but I am.
We know.

I don't feel like people see that much value in me.
People think of themselves mostly and wonder if people think well of them.
You must know your own worth or begin to discover it. Then it doesn't matter what anyone thinks or says, you know you are full of value and worth!

I can't talk to my crushes or even friends without acting fake because I'm so afraid of what people think.
tsk, tsk, such low self-esteem. Who cares what people think! Say it! Don't be a fake; just be prudent, cautious in social interaction just like you're in a Jane Austen novel : )

Everything is just rough.
It always will be.

I'm hoping that saying something can help me find a sense of connection and belonging.
It will help but only to a degree.

I act like I'm old and have stuff figured out but I actually feel like a scared little girl.
'Everybody you meet is afraid of something, loves something and has lost something.'

I too hope to find authentic connection in myself and others.
Take some time, when you are able, to get to know yourself in silence and in solitude. Just be still, and listen. You will not regret this, and it is never a waste of time. You will become a stronger, more confident person that people will find themselves admiring.

Thanks for reading.
Thanks for having written it and giving me an opportunity to wax lyrical ; )

Sometimes we have to force ourselves to get out in life and do something for us! You might look into volunteer work-that way you will be helping others while helping you too

Thank you for taking the time to think about me. It really means a lot. God bless all of you.

I can relate

I can totally relate to this. And well said, @Peacefulrose28