we are here too for support....sorry about the break up....I kind of am in same boat

I am sorry to hear. It’s always hard losing someone you love especially when the relationship was perfect

Here if u like to chat

Any chance for reconciliation?
My last big breakup was agony. She kept me together just by making me laugh, and giving purpose and direction to my life. I felt completely lost without her. Even many years later, not a day goes by I don't think about her.

It hurts like hell. Now please answer me this.
Is it better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all?
That's always the larger question. Is it not.

I am not sure. He broke up with me as he’s been struggling over the last few months as much as we supported one another and we had a perfect relationship he decided that he needs to work on himself and to achieve that he needs to be alone so he can have all his focus there.

I feel like everyone should experience love even if it hurts like hell to lose it

ktop, I think it is pretty normal to feel out of sorts, lonely, maybe even depressed, when our worlds turn upside down. When we have so much invested and maybe enmeshed into one person and one type of living, then the change is a big change. We are in a period of transition and that means everything has to change and we have to find a "new normal." Take some time to consider, do a deep dive, into this "we had a perfect relationship" because there is no such thing and because no human is perfect. I am going to suggest that instead of living in the belief that it was perfect, maybe you could think over how it wasn't perfect. Thinking this was a perfect relationship will only keep you in your grief. Not able to move forward. Be real with yourself. Because this will help you to heal and move forward and if you two get back together, then you will be realistic and will have worked on your issues and him worked on his issues so the union will be stronger. Stay around and let us know how you are doing. The people here care.

Honestly as good as it would be for me to point out faults there really wasn’t any. I have never felt so loved and supported. I never had to ask for anything he did everything every girl dreams or I always felt so supported he was my biggest fan. I genuinely can’t think of any wrong doings during the whole 2 years. If we ever had disagreements we’d never argue we’d just talk and talk things out. I just really don’t understand the reason for breaking things off as much as I understand working on yourself is important it’s still possible to do it whilst in a relationship however he says that he has to do what’s right and doing it alone feels right for him

Something is definitely wrong and he may not have even told you the truth. Maybe the issues are within himself and he lacks the maturity or the honesty to actually tell you. There just is no perfection. Never arguing is a red flag, my therapist said. Because one person is not asserting their needs or not speaking what they really want. Not arguing means one person was more dominant and one person more subservient this therapist said, or there is truly no communication on a deep level. I've often pondered what this therapist said.

He wants to be away from you and this is a painful thing to get a handle on. He may not be able maturity wise to tell you the truth or he has other reasons. He may actually need time to become his mature self. He may feel he can't tell you what he really feels as it isn't safe. This is where we have to do our emotional work to heal and to gain understanding of ourselves. Your focus right now is on the fantasy of how it was perfect so why would he break up. I am suggesting you switch your focus onto something more helpful to you in the long run. Ask yourself some hard questions, look deeper even though maybe you were not perfect. No human is perfect. Perhaps consider looking into what is called codependence and see if it fits you and how you can work on this.

CODA meetings online are always good for me after a breakup. Well always, but especially after a breakup.

Hey:) breakups are really tough especially when you’re used to spending all your time with someone to suddenly feeling really alone. Breakups are going to be hard no matter what, but having someone to talk to/support system are going to help you get through it. I’m here if you need to chat or vent. I’ve been through this. Let me know if you need anything