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Loneliness and peace

middleman101
middleman101
Somewhere in the wee wee hours of this morning when everybody else was asleep in surrounding appartments it came to me that the God I knew did not promise loads of friends, Financial comfort, computers, a girlfriend, or an easy life. God promised me peace and more abundantly How ironic that I became Born Again in an assembly that was a Christian cult that surely did not favor people like me. Just as well maybe because it makes them easier to not miss. But the pastors strayed from Biblical teachings putting other things in a place of authority reserved for God. Idolatory, preached from the pulpit nearly. On the topic of tithing and the avoiding of losing wealth there was lots for them. More of that then teaching of sharing one's wealth with the poor. And I could never marry in that setting for certain Biblical reasons. So I gradually became one left on the sidelines as others married and ignored me because I was single. Yet they had to come to Church to visit Jesus who never nmarried. Did I miss something?. So I don't have the friends and my life was stolen from me by means of abuse. Isn't that something that peace given more abundantly can give me help with? It is sure better then where my life is going at the moment. Often I'm lonely because I am scoring myself on a score card based on values not created by my God. I ought to start reading more again of the Bible. What interpretation to give it is beyond me. I don't like what I heard in most of those assemblies and I don't want to become the person I was as a result of adhereance to Biblical teachings and other teachings that were cultic in origin nor become one who hates others because they are not Christians.....a Paramount sign of a cult.

I have to calm down and not look and get caught up in the values of the society I live in. Take what helps and leave the rest is the way to go I gather. I just want to be a good and happy person with integrity. It is about giving my life a more positive direction without all the negative ad ons of the past. I also need a little more control over my life. Last night I had a horrid nightmare. I woke up and realised all of the above. It feels good to have written this. and I thank you all for reading it. Now to make my way through the maze of options with minimal emotionalism. so that I'll be happy without being oppressed and without making others miserable. I've been seeking the wrong things just because everybody else seeks them or has them. seemingly. as a status quo.
billwfriend
billwfriend
your past is history and future is mystery today is the real present so live in that gift....hugs bill
gustokitty
gustokitty
I'm glad you were born again. And just because that place wasn't right for you, doesn't mean your experience was not true and real. And there are lots of churches out there, so nothing wrong with trying out a few and seeing if there is one where you like the people and the teaching. I'm one to talk as I tend to be a loner, but I do think belong or attending a church can be helpful, as long as we keep in mind all those in that physical church are not necessarily Christians. People are people and they have their reasons for being there and all may not be as pure as yours are. So perhaps you can get the general feel and seek out people who you feel are earnest in their journey. And remember we all still make mistakes. But it's good that you are aware of cults and ulterior motives. Not all churches are created equal. I would recommend sticking with bible based churches of course. For good youtube preaching I would reccoment John MacArthur for straight no nonsense bible based teaching. Good luck to you, may Jesus be with you.
almatheid
almatheid
I to the word of God and have left numerous churches because I was not getting spiritually fed. It took me six years to divorce my wife because they say I couldn't it was between churches that God could tell me this was not biblical. God is a God of peace if you and your spouse can't make it (no peace) you have to separate. The church members then condemn you to a life of loneliness until your spouse dies, then you can marry again. The bible teaches it's not good for man to be alone if your married and alone God is not saying you have to stay alone to please me. The blood of Jesus paid for past. present and future sin they have been forgiven. Everything has been forgiven except Blasphemy, including bad choices in marriage. The church basically pull out old testament laws and use them to control the church members. Such as if you make a vow to God you better keep it or else. That was the law we have a better covenant. Offerings is the new testament requirement not tithing if you want you can give 10% or more of you income. But you are required to give (offering) what you can give not grudgingly. Malachi is a old testament law.
middleman101
middleman101
A lot of good stuff on tithing. Every sermon I heard on tithing made it something we had to do because it was Biblical. However it is also Biblical that we are to be cheerful givers because God loves cheerful givers. When preaching on tithing the preachers divorced themselves from the Biblical reality that we are to be cheerful givers....as well as responsible for what God Gives us which is a slight deviation from tithing UNLESS giving 10% renders one unable to pay bills for electricity, etcetra. And well, With me on welfare that becomes a major add on. But months later when a question is posed on an unrelated topic, the answer is quite often We don't do things like they did back then. DUH! Cult

It just dawned on me to look through the yellow pages of my phone books. Easier to find what I'd like and based on how the index works i can get a lot of ideas of interesting things to do. My interest in reading fiction and stuff having nothing or little to do with personal growth. Yellow pages, book stores, internet research and working on having more peace and a more joyful heart are really my thing right now it seems. And there are no churches nearby anyways. Here they are all French and Crazy thinking goes on. The English ones are better, but one is talking about a ninety minute trip one way by bus, one way, to get to one. So that won't be a priority for now. I just want to be a happy and loving person. So I'm staying put for awhile. But today is a great day as it is putting an end to the "end of the month blues" for me. Tomorrow will be the start to another month. YEA!
koolman
koolman
This is why I consider myself a SPIRITUAL person without subscribing to any RELIGION. I bypass the priests, pastors, their coffers and talk to the Big Man directly, middleman. Religion's a fine thing, if taken in moderation. One time when I attended Christian church, the pastor there described church as a "hospital for sinners". Christians are no different than anyone else. They can lie, cheat and steal. The only difference is they ask for forgiveness, receive it, and are then free to continue to pursue their wickedness. But there are some good Christians too. I'm glad you see the hypocricy: "Do as I say, not as I do" in that particular church. Hope it doesn't sour you on the whole thing, just makes you more aware of the behavior of humans at the next place of worhsip.
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