You know you're really in trouble when you start begrudging total strangers their happiness.

It's terrible that you felt as if you had no one when you were a small child. It wasn't fair, but you're grown now and can take care of yourself.

I can't do what I want because I am constrained to stay out of trouble.

Also, this woman was talking to me for a couple of days, but I am jealous because I know that as we speak, she is with another man. Most women never even give me a chance. You can't force people to be nice to you. So it's fair that I ask people in return that I don't have to care about them. Right now, I could care less what the bible says. My feelings get squashed on a daily basis. That's why I hate.

I want to thank everyone for not caring.

So.. People suck? So what? What are you going to do about it? Be a better person or just suck too?

Those happy couples didn't just roll out of bed and end up together. They worked at getting to know each other and formed a relationship. It's also quite an assumption that they are happy. Maybe he beats her when they are home alone. Maybe she has a gambling addiction and they are about to lose their home. Would that make your life better if that's true? All of us on this forum suffering, alone, and sad. Does that make you feel better or make your life better?

Probably not.

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good point. i have spent years trying to be a better person despite the way women treat me. unfortunately, it doesn't ease the pain. but, sure, there are others who go through what i go through. sometimes that helps a little.

Life is a cruel joke: If you believe that, then that is true for you!

Blame God, blame others, as you will. I don't know who is "constraining" you...but it seems the one constraining you is you.

I guess, to find someone who is "decent", you first have to be "decent" yourself, and stop with the jealousy and comparing yourself to others. There is no one else who is uniquely like you except you, so do what you gotta do to like yourself.

I exercise. It helps me feel good when everything and everyone around me seems shit. When I feel good, the rest of the world looks good (better anyway) too.

Pain avoidance seems to be the issue here too. If you ACCEPT pain, as part of life, you'll be a lot better off and a lot healthier. Try not to stay in that painful place ALL THE TIME of course. There is much pleasure, joy and laughter to be had too.

Hang out with little kids. Some of them are little shits, but some of them are very sweet too, blank slates, unfettered yet by the powerful influences of others, only scared of things that are bigger than them that they don't understand, but, otherwise, kids are baggage-free.

You tube Abraham Hicks. Listen to a few of the speeches. It will answer many questions. Your perception IS your reality so if you are focusing your attention on negative thoughts then you will bring more of that into your life. Change your thoughts, change your life.

Don't let the shitty people who have been in your life make you a bitter person. It makes it extremely hard for anyone who might be good for you to get into your life.

I know it's hard not to. I've become bitter and negative about my own existence and it makes it really hard for people to connect to me. I'm working on fixing that. I mean, how drawn are you to someone who's always pissed off and angry at the world?

we live in a fallen world this is the reason for all the turmoil.

People are not responsible for making you happy and women sure aren't. It's your responsibility to find a way to be happy without a woman in your life. Sometimes just venturing out and taking classes in something you like (photography, cooking, foreign language, travel, art, group biking, etc.) then try it because it gives you topics to talk to others about and be an interesting person. You have to figure that after 44 years what you've been doing hasn't been working, so it's worth it to try something new.

When you do new things, you'll become happier in your life. Becoming happier in your life without someone in your life, it brings out a confidence and lack of being desperate that women notice, then add to that the new knowledge from the course(s) you've taken and work on a great sense of humor and you'll be reeling in women constantly.

like Dr. Phil says, "How fun are you to be with?". Cause you can't expect anyone to want to hang out with a sour, pessimistic, bitter, jaded depressed person. You don't either right?

Don't let your past interactions keep you from moving forward. It does seem that ppl are just awful, but that cannot be true of everyone. I choose to believe that God isn't in the business of playing games with us and laughing at our misery. Innstead I believe that we do have a purpose here and we have to serve it. It 's different for everybody and some of us are more sensitive and/or more unwilling to accept or see it. Some of us just havent seen it yet and conclude that we're useless because that.

However I get it. I get it. But there is someone willing to friend you regardless of your financial situation. Be open to it. Maybe DS is a great start.

And hey, I don't believe that you've given up on ppl, because you're here. I'M A PEOPLE!!!!!