Hi Oney, I'm an island too, and although I expect a counsellor would tell me I chose that, it doesn't feel like it to me! Have you seen the film "About a Boy" with Hugh Grant? Your post reminded me of it - HG does this great spiel about how he is an island, and the island is Ibiza, and he is his own Entertainment Director. I hope I win the lottery one day, so I can make my island more like Ibiza, and buy some friends, *really* good ones!

I've built walls,
A fortress deep and mighty,
That none may penetrate.
I have no need of friendship; friendship causes pain.
It's laughter and it's loving I disdain.
I am a rock,
I am an island.

Don't talk of love,
But I've heard the words before;
It's sleeping in my memory.
I won't disturb the slumber of feelings that have died.
If I never loved I never would have cried.
I am a rock,
I am an island.

I have my books
And my poetry to protect me;
I am shielded in my armor,
Hiding in my room, safe within my womb.
I touch no one and no one touches me.
I am a rock,
I am an island.

this used to be my "theme song" if you will... but i now realize i AM NOT an island and i am by far a rock. i need people... human interaction and touch. this revelation has not come easy... but none the less it is the simple truth.

If we all didn't have so much maybe we would look to each other for amusement!

I also have a hard time building friends. I'm working on that developing my social skills every day. Part of what's required is a lot of wisdom. You have to know which people are actually interested in you. You also have to see whether people will not get bored of you but will remain interested in you. Good luck :)
-ME

People need people. There are no islands, Isnt that why were all on the webpage???

Props to Slovak...maybe hit the nail on the head!

We all get so involved in our "stuff"...and we only want to talk to people who have "stuff" like we have. Maybe if we put down the i-Pods, the flat screens, the nice cars, the big houses...we could find things in common.

Oh, and don't forget the effing phones!

i agree with viviene... there are no islands and i think that's why we are all here. and slovak i laugh at myself all the time... that's how i get by most days:)

I have online friends...supportive to a degree, but don't get TOO heavy. There is always that line I am aware of...I don't have a friend who will come and bring me a can of soup when I am sick, or sit and have a cup of tea or coffee with me.
My older sister is the closest thing to that, but still she's mny sister, and maybe not as loyal as I'd hope for. It seems quite common these days....people have no lack of online friends, to share the light stuff, but a friend who CARES to REALLEE KNOW us...that's rare, I think. At least for me it is....more like non-existant!

I don't have a friend to call on to go to the movies with or to chat about nothing but I have many acquaintences with whom I share social activities, I have to be content with that because I think It's as good as it's going to get for me. I also find that people these days are so busy living their lives that they don't have time, real time, for others and maybe thats just a sign of the times. I make friends, they move away,I sit here and also think I am an Island but did I really chose this for myself? In some ways I did, it's safe and I don't get hurt.

Macjude...too bad we don't live a LITTLE closer!!! Ha!
It's true though...everyone IS very busy, and for someone who isn't working (outside the home!) it's hard.
Hope all of you have a good weekend. Hugs!

Viv..........I do think that's why we are all here. We need to fill that empty space. I have no family and no friends and all I'm doing is getting older. When my husband died I realized a part of what life should hold didn't exist for me........friends. I have been trying for nearly 3 years and I have a nice bunch o acqaintances to show for it. I can't seem to get close with anyone.
It also amazes me that so many people are just like me. Wish I could meet up with some of you guys and gals.

I also am doing what I can to make friends , the problem when we are older tho is that most people are settled in their friendships and don't realise we need to be included. I have spent years with the same acquaintances and find it 's taken years to really become frineds with 1 or 2, I still keep going out there tho and join groups and that is the only way I'll ever be able to make friends, I just have to persist.

I see that this feeling of despair I have is not only mine. But it was not always like this, I used to create groups around me and I remember people could make me laugh and I to them and I was happy and they with me. Why isn't like that anymore? The only difference I find is my gray hair and I am barely 34. I feel miserable. I want to cry and cry. I really hate my life now. Sorry guys

No need to apologise, Oney! We are all in similar lonely boats. I too feel like all the good times were in the past, and at the moment I can't imagine anything good in the future. Maybe, just maybe, this too will pass. I expect the knack is ti act "as if" things are going to get better, and hang in there a bit longer.

I am very lonely. I have no family or friends. I have met people at church but none wants to take a relationship to friendship. I go out alone, come home to an empty house, and have no one who cares. I have been ill, and even then I must go get my own meds, and take care of myself. Everyday life has become a chore, a day something I need to get through. I often end the day early by going to bed at 6 or 7 o'clock. I am getting desperate, and no one is attracted to that.

I am very lonely. I have no family or friends. I have met people at church but none wants to take a relationship to friendship. I go out alone, come home to an empty house, and have no one who cares. I have been ill, and even then I must go get my own meds, and take care of myself. Everyday life has become a chore, a day something I need to get through. I often end the day early by going to bed at 6 or 7 o'clock. I am getting desperate, and no one is attracted to that.