what else do you do to calm down? What do you do for fun? I have a long distance relationship with my boyfriend and its been getting harder and harder. There have been times I couldnt see him for months and it would make me worry, feel depressed and make me wonder what he thinks of all this....So I started sending him quick video messages on skype once a day just to say hello and hope he has a good day. Even if the message is rushed, he always appreciates that I care enough to show my smile everyday to him. I also live far away from my friends and with going to school plus working full time I get little to no time to see anyone. I've become a bit of a hermit but I've learned to use my time wisely. Being nerdy and working on cosplays for conventions. Planning out weekends even if its months away to go and visit people, learning to belly dance and learn sign language through youtube tutorials.
Just find what you want to do with yourself and stick to it. I'm sure you are the life of the party so keep being it and use your spare time wisely.

I know what you mean as I was in a long distance relationship for two years, and yes it was a struggle. I would suggest you get yourself involved in some activities that’ll keep your mind engaged -- that’s what I did – I got involved in a mentoring program, and that really helped me cope. Hope this helps! That’s said, I’m sorry about the problem with your mom, I hope you guys reconcile soon. Hugs!

One of the hardest lessons to learn I think, is how to be in a relationship and not lose yourself. Take some time to really reflect on who you are and what your own interests are. It's ok to miss him and take a little time every day for that, but don't let it overwhelm and depress you. Let it have it's time and then put it away and figure out what you want to do with your time while he's away and have faith that he misses you just as much. Maybe make it a game, try to come up with adventures so you have fun things to share with him. Big hugs!

I'm so happy I found this site. Having people who seem to genuinely care and are/have been through similar situations makes me feel not quite so alone. Thank you everyone! I'm going to try out some of your ideas and hopefully it'll get better.

Yeah, we pour all our love into a person, who hopefully returns that love, and then when they're not around, this horrible sense of desolation ensues. We have to find something or someone else in life to love, even if only as a friend. Friendship isn't as intense or fulfilling as that all-encompassing, head-over-heels feeling from our romantic and sexual love interest, but a friend can really help cushion the blow of loneliness when your significant other isn't around.

It's important to be and stay socially proactive. Join meetup.com, RSVP to activities you're interested in, show up and socialize with people. Physically exercise, however much you're able, go to a park or somewhere (safe) and talk with people along your travels.

I keep telling myself to make new friends and explore my surroundings but the truth is I've lost all my self confidence. It's like I've forgotten how to make friends, how to engage in conversation. I've started to use excersise as a way of distraction but at the end of the day when I'm laid in bed that loneliness is there in full bloom. I know it's only a year then we'll be back together but I know now, that I need to maintain a life of my own, create my own happiness. But how?