Sadly, I agree that the majority of the world does judge us on a quick glance. if we are not a gorgeous size 6 25 year old who is slapped together, we rarely get a second glance....Or if we do, it feels like a look of disgust because we dare to step out in the real world with "the perfect ones"

What I have found though . is that there are more "real "people like us who want to get to know someone INSIDE and out. Because I am not that young raving beauty (and because I was subjected to some very hateful verbal abuse by a very dysfunctional family member long ago) I make it a point to look past imperfections and see the real person.

I believe you sound like a very warm and caring person and there are those out there who can grow to love who someone is and simply focus on a very caring smile or perhaps mischievous look in their eyes.

PS. I do have to thank you because the last few days I have been feeling very hopeless and feeling I will remain alone... but you have reminded me of the same message i am relaying to you. Never say never.... and never say we don't deserve to be loved because we both do. (In the meantime, we can commiserate til then. lol) with many hugs.

Bless you Sweetie. You are loved. I've had these exact feelings before though; I understand, and am sending you a private message.

I believe everyone has a soul mate. I basically gave up on love when I got into a car accident then felt like I had to go to a party I never wanted to go to and met my true love. I believe everything happens for a reason and I believe your soul mate is sitting at home thinking they’re going to be alone forever and wondering where you are and yes I have told this to many of people because I firmly believe it! Don’t give up hope!

You will find a man who loves and respects you once you learn to love and respect yourself.

There are plenty of good men still out there waiting for a good woman with whom to share their life.

you should read Tyer Bank latest book" Perfectiion is boring".

Is Tyra Bank.

'Physical beauty means everything to a man.'
Physical beauty means a lot to a man but if a woman were blind and one-legged, if she had inner beauty and was kind, then the man would desire her and love her.

'I have accepted that In this life I am not allowed to love and be loved.'
You can choose not to love or be loved. You can love your daughter, others in the right ways. 'Love is the light and sunshine of life; we can't enjoy ourselves or anything until we share it with someone that we love.' Lord Avebury.

'Without love the whole universe is one grey tomb.'

This broke my heart. I’m so sorry you haven’t found a real man. I know they are out there because I believe I’m one. Physical ‘imperfections’ would never stop me from truly loving the right woman. Please don’t give up on Love. I almost did and had to regroup myself because I have to believe that it’s out there. I’m 47 and will be starting nursing school in the fall, so got you beat there. Just talked with a family friend who just got her license at 61 !! Focusing on being a great mom is wonderful. I have a four year old granddaughter who I adore. Bests

I agree with someone else said...you have to love yourself first and you’ve begun that process when you stopped letting men use you for sex. It can be a long hard process for sure. The mind is a powerful thing though and you must switch your thinking, which is another process in itself. It’s habitual to think the things you think therefore you must consciously be aware of your thoughts so you can change any negative thought into a positive one. Start thinking positive about YOURSELF 1st and then you can work on thinking about the man you DESERVE and he will come along. You have to know and believe that you are 100%meant to love someone and be loved. You deserve love, from yourself and others. I suggest looking up The Push Girls. Maybe their stories ar Le different than yours in nature but still very inspirational nonetheless.

Veggiequeen

Thank you kindly for the reply.

Shadowlady

Thank you for taking the time to reply, I'm feeling a little better today after reading the mesesgs of support and encouragement.

Peterthegreat

Thanks ! I love reading and just added the book to my Amazon.com basket.

Honey

I really appreciate your thoughtful and detailed reply. I'm really working on myself, however, it's proven to be the most difficult tesk I've ever attempted.

StarBrightGal

Thank you for taking the time to reach, I really appreciate your words of encouragement.

Cora_Belle

Totally agree with you, I'm most definitely a work in progress. Thank you kindly for reaching out.