Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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NikkiInTheDesert 04/06/2018

Because I'm disabled (below the knee amputation of the left leg) and have lot's of skin graphs all over my body. Man have no problem sleeping with me (I stopped subjecting myself to this treatment years ago) however, I have never been loved and respected by a man and for the longest time, I told myself it's because the right man has yet to present himself, all women experience this, right?. Well, in a world where physical beauty means everything to a man, I now understand that I am not worthy or deserving of love. I hope I get to experience love in the next lifetime, however, I have accepted that In this life I am not allowed to love and be loved. I just want to know if anyone has any ideals on ways to cope? other then focusing on myself?. As a matter of fact, the more I focus on myself, the worse I feel. I'm sure in about a year or so, I'll feel much better. However, in the meantime. I'm just trying to calm the overwhelming emotions I have about my life of loneliness. Any advice will be greatly appreciated.

NikkiInTheDesert 04/07/2018

Robotnik

I was referring to romantic love only, thank you for reaching out.

NikkiInTheDesert 04/07/2018

Finallyawakenow

Thank you so much, you're kind reply was greatly needed.

Imlosingit 04/08/2018

I’ve been feeling along those lines too for longer than I want to admit. I let my physical appearance go, depression, physical abilities less from shoulder surgery, mental state, undefined and everywhere, after brain surgery and the aftermath fall out.
You say you like reading, I got through a lot reading The Power Within You by Louise Hay. If you are on FB, check out the Trust Your Journey site. Also helped me. Some times it’s not easy being Green. ☺️

imlostinlife 04/13/2018

This is not really all that helpful, but all of you who think this is a fault of only men are far from wrong. Just ask the next man you find shorter than you, especially if he doesn't have a perfectly fit body. Ever hear of the pervasive saying, "tall, dark, and handsome?"

I'm truly sorry you're experiencing this from every man your meeting, but there are those of us that can say the same about every woman.

Perhaps it would help to meet guys online and have them get to know you first. When the time is right, don't lie, be honest and see if he sticks around. It doesn't work for me, being short is too difficult for a woman to live with, but the theory is sound. Yes, I know it happens, but how many of those short guys have lots of money to compensate.

Shallowness is shared between both sexes

That all being said, I'm totally free for chatting and talking things out.

Imlosingit 04/15/2018

Imlostinlife@, can’t argue with you. “Shallow Hal” comes to mind. Relationships should be based on more than just looks. I think us woman, in the latter part of their lives, and find themselves no longer in a relationship, have a tendency to worry more. I know I do. Regardless of my agreeing with you. I’m still in the middle of separating, but the thought of any kind of dating can be somewhat scary. Especially the on line kind, where you have no “actual” idea of who is on the other side. Words can come so easy on the page. Person to person, is totally different. Agreed on the open honesty. Not an easy trait to find. Sorry, a bit burnt on that one.

imlostinlife 04/15/2018

Of course a face to face is preferable, while online meetings are not ideal and come with it's own set of issues, if your trying to make your first impression be about your inner self I think there is no better tool.

KelleyPaterson 04/16/2018

Not sure if this would be an option for you. But while looking at online dating sites I came across one for people who were amputees and had physical challenges. It wasn’t a free site so random people couldn’t go and snoop threw profiles. I thought it was a good idea.

I have kidney disease myself & am now post transplant. I would prefer to date someone who also dealt with physical issues so that there could be an understanding of similar issues. Anyhow thought I would mention it.

Tired51 04/17/2018

Love yourself first. You are not missing out on anything. The right guy will come along and see YOU, the person and he will love every bit of you. Don't get discouraged because nowadays people have made it okay to be trifling and mean for no reason. People are selfish and self-centered. SOME men just want someone to take care of them and SOME just want sex. Be patient, God always has a plan, because this world has changed so much and people think trifling is okay, God has to weed through all of this to bring you man that is meant for you. Just hold on and you will be pleasantly surprised at what he will do in your life. Have faith. It's when you are not looking, waiting or thinking about a man, the right one will come along. You'll see.

Sugarlumpie 04/20/2018

Have you ever thought of doing community service work? Somewhere that there is a great need. When I start to feel like that and hate the world, I try to do something for an older or homeless person, or for someone in my neighborhood. I have terrible dental problems, like all of my teeth are falling apart and off. I have a ton of employment prejudice that I have to endure because of it. I've got a masters and teach spanish, and we are so poor that I'm leaving my profession in about 3 weeks. I only say this because I really, really understand what your saying. Sometimes I have no faith at all in this world. But you do deserve love, companionship, beauty and peace in your life. Don't give up on yourself. Your heart is so tender and beautiful. Big hugs, friend.

JustAre 04/23/2018

I understand where you coming from..... Train yourself to love yourself..... Make an effort to appreciate yourself, I don't really need someone else .....be brave and proud ....keep your head up and my prayers go out to you.....much love

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