i'm glad we had this discussion.

You have every right to feel the way you do. We all have our own beliefs, values, etc. When you watched the 8 yr old, number one, she does not dictate what you purchase at the store, and cannot make you buy anything.
Furthermore, at 8 years old she may have really believed that grabbing a card out in reach obviously, and probably coached by an older child she may have really thought they were free? How many times are we screwed until the last sign up page of a so called free item or service on the net? With that said, it sounds like your friends children need major parenting, long before they arrived on your scene.
The fact you are smart and wise enough not to have children and choose not to be around them is actually just fine in my book. I have children and love them dearly, but sure do not want nor ask anyone that doesn't like kids to watch them?
Seems maybe your friend list that ask you to sit for them, and you are kind enough to say yes, even though you don't even care for the "task" seems odd to me.
And yes, there sure are TONS of people out there that have children that should have never been given the opportunity, and many that so want children and cannot have them. With that said, as someone mentioned, this isn't China, thank God.

And when meeting people you say you don't put it out there, but sometimes when we are so adamant about a particular life style or belief we don't even realize how obvious we are. My BF who is narcissistic comes to mind. He pushes religion down peoples throats until they vomit. He goes about it all wrong .But believes he is doing it correctly. Maybe you do as well but are not aware? Just an idea.

the kid knew they cost money, the kids lied and stole money. the kid refused to eat the food she was supposed to, the kid conned me. just can't believe why you would the actions of this child. it's not fair on me. the mother was away, far away, a 2 hour drive away, the mother is terminally ill, i could not say no, it was done out of the goodness of my heart, i trusted both the child and the mother. see what happens... people say i am negative, but really, there is alot of bad in the world, unless we are totally ignorant and blind, that is take the easy way of life, and only fill our minds with mindless hope and positivity until what? we hit a brick wall i suppose. i have been wrong so much in my life, it's really hard to to have these values, it's hard to live life in such an unatural manner, as all organisms wish to reproduce. but i thought about it, unlike many people, and i don't want to forget what i have seen in the world, that is why i type it here, so i can re read it, that is why i want to and have to remind myself not to persue such things, and i am frankly exhausted. having to explain myself, trying to prove to people that it's not that i hate kids, it's that the universe itself is not a perfect ideal place, and we are all but mere mortals.

The goodness of your heart should say to you, "wow, I shouldn't babysit any more, no matter what the situation because I'm not happy that the 8 year old took my bank card and bout videos, had me buy sweets against my will, and it wasn't a good experience. I fell asleep while babysitting and I shouldn't have, I take responsibility, but I learned a good lesson. No more babysitting." Problem solved.

I commend people who take a logical approach to whether or not they should have children.

I would love to have a child. But, logically, I know that's not a sound choice for me at this time. I'm dealing with depression, health issues, and financial issues. As much as my heart aches for a tiny baby to love and take care of, my brain tells my heart to STFU because I'm not in a good position to take care of myself 100%, let alone another life.

It takes more to raise a kid than simply "liking kids" and "making all the right choices". You have to be mentally ready to take on the task as well as the "superficial" reasons like finances and having a decent home. Many people think they are ready and they do the best they can, but they end up churning out a adult who's less than functional in society. Ones who thinks it's ok to tear down others for not having their same belief systems. Because, apparently, people who don't believe in what you believe don't deserve respect as a human being.

i am so hurt right now, i am crying. why do i have to explain myself to people who are so pathetic, your breathe pathetic. i babysitted for 3 days, it was a favor, i did not get payed, i did it coz my friend needed a break, she got diagnosed with cancer. if you think that me accepting the challenge, and that it is my fault for sleeping sorry, but i am so hurt, so disgusted, that i am getting the blame. it is autism awareness month. you people have a massive problem. you are going to die, all your chidlren and childrens children are garanteed to die, face the truth. no one is immortal. we all get sick, we all get lonely, in this modern world there is so much illness, there is not even enough space. learn from people's mistakes. how many children don't talk to their parents anymore? how many children? do you think your children are some how immune to everything? yes, i have had a tough life whcih made me question my entire existence, it made me question reality and the universe and where the hell we even stand in the entire cosmos. you people need to do that first before you call me the evil one. you are just ignorant fools. how many mothers keep their child, and their child has no father? i know what its like without a father, and it's not fun i tell you. do you people only want to care about selfish emotions like love from a baby, well here is the truth, your baby is most likely going to grow up in the world we live today, OUR FOOD is not even what it used to be, OUR HOMES are not what they used tobe... i am crying out and begging you to think twice, because 200 years from now, there will be more people like me, OUR entire INFRASTRUCTURE is not sustainable. OMG i can't believe i have to even explain myself to people, it's all words that fall on deaf ears. deaf ears i tell you. it's always been the same. having children is not for me, of course i would like to be happy, but i will have to find another way, i am willing to find another another way to be happy instead of just popping out another human being to satisfy my emotional needs. human beings are conscious, and i really hope you get a child that looks at you one day and says MUM why did you have me? why did put me in this world when you full well should have known, you lived in the information era, you should have known better. why did you do it, MUMMY!