Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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I am so lonely since I lost my husband....

carolk1955
carolk1955

My husband was my only family after my parents died. We were married for 25 years and during that time I never felt lonely. Then in 2017 he passed away and now I feel all alone with no support. I feel like I have no life--I'm just existing. Every day is the same. I'm in a personal care home (I never should have given up my apt) and I lost my car. all my possessions and my pet cat passed away. So many losses. I'm kicking myself that I didn't even take my beautiful engagement ring with me. I missed my husband's funeral because his brother never called me to tell me when it was. I've never been to my husband's grave site. We used to cuddle together on a regular basis. I miss that so much. I can't remember the last time I got a hug from anyone. I'm not living in my hometown--I can't afford to move back there. This town in 27 years never felt like home. I'm in so much pain and I don't know how to move on.

shelda
shelda
Takes a long time to feel like yourself,i am struggling off and on now and it's been 3 years since my husband died.Too much happening at the same time..i used to wonder if i did something so bad or am I that evil and didn't know it..we can not guess as to why they die but they do.Everyday. I have lived here for 32 years and all my family lives on the other side of the country. Except our grown children who have not much time for me. I have a son though who helps me when i need help,but he is married with grown children of his own now. Thankful for him. When my husband died i cam on here more and discovered i wasn't insane..it is a great group (hugs)
shakyinside
shakyinside
I’m so sorry to hear this. Is there other people in the same situation where you live that would be grateful for some company?
tmillerofde
tmillerofde
i'm really sorry you're so lonely.. i totally understand though.. i'm actually in a relationship with someone but at the same time i've never felt so alone.. she does her own thing and mostly just ignores me and she can be abusive sometimes so i try to just give her a wide berth..

i've tried finding friends outside her social circle but it's been really hard.. people can be so fake sometimes especially the ones you meet online but i'm disabled so it's hard for me to be able to go out and about to try and meet people.. so online is about the only place i can try and talk to people..

but anyways.. sorry again about everything you've had to go thru and are still going thru.. i'll say a prayer and try and send some happy vibes your way if it'll maybe help..

take care and God bless,
terry
carolk1955
carolk1955
My husband and I never had children. Now I wish we had. It is very hard to meet people to make friends with. I never get out of the personal care home and for others, family is the only way they get out and at least get a ride in a car. My own car gave me a sense of independence but now I no longer have that. I hope my new therapist can help me find some hope--I need some so badly.

Carol
Kekse
Kekse
I see a lot of widows and widowers who isolate themselves after losing their spouse. They stay in, don't work, don't volunteer, don't exercise, nothing. Please search for Senior groups, Meetup.com clubs, book groups, hiking groups, anything and everything that sparks something you've always loved. I've worked in hospitals and we couldn't get by if it weren't for the priceless volunteers. Help elementary kids learn to read, Big Brother Big sisters , things like that. Over time people will get to know you and you will have community around you. Best of luck!
joylee48
joylee48
I can imagine your pain. I'm a senior widow who lost my husband 3 years ago. My only companions are my two dogs. If it were not for them,, I would be entirely lost. I have never been socially active on any large scale. My husband was my social life. It's been hard to take care of everything by myself now. I'm tired of mundane pathetic advice handed out to lonely seniors about moving on, join a church, a gym, volunteer, blah, blah. I think if I was a much younger woman, it would be different to start over again.