Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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how to deal with loneliness

bakerygirl727
bakerygirl727
hello,im new to this site. my name is laurie.47 years old and very alone and get lonely all the time.i don't have any friends to hang out with or come over.my family is 3 hours away from me.trying to relocate to be closer to them but I have to wait for my job to transfer and there is no time frame for it.i also have anxiety and panic attacks.have had them for years.im not and outgoing person,so I have trouble making new friends.im having a very hard time coping with the loneliness lately.beeen sad and depressed.i cry everyday.does anyone have any ideas on how I can cope.if anyone can help,please reply
lucillegem
lucillegem
Hey there! and welcome
Hopefully this site can help ease the loneliness
and perhaps finding social events within your own community?
and something that has really helped me cope if coloring, because you dont think about anything but what color you will use and I suggest listening to some upbeat music and get lost in it.

Hope this helps! heres to better days... :)
sissyofasnowboarder
sissyofasnowboarder
I bought a bike and started walking as much as I hate excercise getting moving and doing something seems to redirect my excessive anxiety and accomplishes something plus I'm starting to lose a little weight and feel better. I mean little but hey I take what I can get and I did it myself. I have to really force my self to get out NO Excuses only 15 mins then I get out and it's so fun I start smiling at the squirrels and realize the joy I'm missing. I bet you have something you can find like that. I also clean a lot when I can't go outside.
bettykf
bettykf
I understand everything you are saying. Going through the same thing. I want to hug you and be here to talk anytime you need someone. Loneliness can be extremely hard to deal with and then if you add panic attacks and anxiety, it can make you feel crazy. If you ever want to talk or message, I am here. Understand everything you shared. As lonely people, we need to connect to fight off the feeling we are alone in all this. We are not and can comfort one another. Hugs to you again. It is very hard meeting new people. People just don't seem interested. And I am shy person too. Have heart for those struggling or alone because I understand it.
annettearizona
annettearizona
hello and welcome! I always suggest to get involved with crafts and hobbies which interest you and then you will meet others with the same interests
mechengr55
mechengr55
Hi Bakerygirl,

I am finding that keeping busy helps keep your mind off of the loneliness. Like Sissyo..., I do also ride my bike a lot. I just rode to the beach for the first time today (5 miles). Watching the waves coming in was somehow relaxing. I also do a lot in my yard and projects on my house in the evenings after work. Then I am so tired at bedtime that I fall asleep instantly, no time to lay there drying about my loneliness.
sweetjane3
sweetjane3
maybe first start doing stuff on your own - anything. enjoy life and what you like to do and build confidence. just get out there - you never know who will come across that you can connect with doing what you love.
also how about a church, taking a class of some kind, getting a pet (if a dog then walk your dog in a park) - the more you do the same thing the better the chance of meeting people and feeling more comfortable doing so as well as meeting the kind of people you can connect with better too.
koolman
koolman
Hi Laurie! Well, you made a good step by coming here!
Althas
Althas
I hope you can take solace in knowing you are not alone. Your story rings true of me in pretty much every way

meetup.com is something always suggested as a good place to start. You should find some groups for activities in your area that you are interested in

Sit in the garden and smile at the beauty of nature, then go for a walk to admire it
It is difficult, but we are always here to talk
getfuzzy
getfuzzy
Welcome to DS! I wish I had the "silver bullet" to the cure for loneliness, but have suffered with it for a lifetime. My recommendations are those many others will make. Take a class, join a gym, do volunteer work, attend a church group, etc. I have done many over the years, and continue to enjoy to do so, but none have lead to new friendships. I keep trying and hoping...for without hope, life would really be difficult.

I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks too. Regular workouts at the gym greatly help ease the symptoms. Also, I try to stay so busy during the day, that at night I am so exhausted that I generally fall right to sleep...which is a blessing otherwise my mind "races" and I'm up all night.

try to focus on what you enjoy and go do it..even if my yourself. Go to the movie you have always wanted to see...go to the new restaurant that just opened, attend a concert of an artist you enjoy, etc. Do things to make you happy..

Please feel free to contact me if you ever need someone to talk to...
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