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Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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Hate being single

RelaxedGirl42
RelaxedGirl42

So I have been single for about a month now. My ex-boyfriend was a total asshole to me. He basically raped me one of the nights I was at his house. Anyways, about two weeks ago, I ran into my first love at my work, which is a grocery store. I instantly knew that he came to that store and my register at that time for a reason. Ever since then, we’ve been talking and hanging out with each other. We haven’t seen each other or talked to one another for about a year before he came to my work. I’ve been trying so hard to get him back as my boyfriend because I still love him and the other day that we hung out, he told me that he really likes me but keeps saying that he just needs friends right now. It’s really hard not to be flirty with him. 

robotnik
robotnik
slowly, slowly catchee monkey : ) Don't scare him off. If you love something let it go...or in this case don't want him as your boyfriend so badly, just concentrate on loving him, and wanting what's best for him...and right now, what's best for him is just being friends
maria718
maria718
He means what he says. I know it's hard, but try not to think about him too much.
YoginiBhakti
YoginiBhakti
It may seem hard but he may also have other things going on in his life right now. He may be seeing someone else or he may be super busy trying to fix himself. Be careful not to fixate on him too much or you may start heading down that codependency trail (the more he pushes the more you want him) so for now focus on fixing yourself.
KittyKai
KittyKai
This here is one of the few groups that has newer posts, so I am going to jump in to see what happens!

I found my husband dead on the bathroom floor in 2008. Massive heart attack. I did pretty well at first, I was busy and moved to a new town in a home that has only one floor. I gave my beach home to my 2 oldest sons, to keep it in the family. It was too much for me all alone!

Now, years later, I seem to be making up for a grieving period by doing it now! I guess I always figured that I would meet someone and start a new life but that has not happened. So now I am wide awake and realize that time is running out. I am still alone and my sons don't come around that much.

So this is where I stand as of today, not much is happening. I am in the Pacific Northwest.

KK
Solus
Solus
@relaxedgirl42 Try not to make yourself too vulnerable to being hurt. If you continue to enjoy his company and your bond grows stronger, you're going to want to take things further. Then there'll be a conversation about where this is going. He's already said he didn't want a relationship right now. Perhaps in a delicate way you could find out why? It seems there are some signals you're getting from him, but are you reading them right? Good luck. I hope you get your heart's desire.
KK - I'm so sorry about what youve been through losing your husband. You coped at the time, were there for your family and held it all together because they needed you. And now the grief has hit.
We may not be close geographically but I think we're in the same location regarding being alone, feeling time run by, family not around. Hope you'll find useful support here.
Sly
Sly
I have been single for 5 years. I'm very lonely, but don't trust anyone anymore. I have chosen not to date. I have mental illnesses and it's just not worth the heartaches, arguments and chaos. Relationships have been nothing but painful for me all my life. I'm 48.