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Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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karanhere
karanhere
I don't know if anyone can relate but life at the moment sucks a hell lot.

I am in a foreign country for a job.I am so lonely here with no friends and no one to talk to.

I made a few friends when I came here but I don't know why all of a sudden to started ignoring me.I thought we guys shared a good bond but they just took me out of their lives and threw me out.

I don't have any friends at work and everything I have to do on my own.When I look around I see people so happy , going out for lunch together,doing things together but I have to eat alone,work alone and do pretty much everything alone.

I have actually started doubting myself that may be something is wrong with me.I have no energy to get out of my bed and go to work.

I just feel that I repel people because wherever I go I can't make any friends and find people who wants to my friend.I am really down with depression and really hopeless.

I have really started believing that I don't belong here.I don''t want to feel rejected,depressed.

People say god has a plan for all of us but I really don't know why god wants me to go through this.

I am sry guys but i had to get this out of me as its killing me inside.

God Bless You All...
gustokitty
gustokitty
Are you contractually obligated to stay there? I stayed at a job where people were petty and small for 5 years, because I had every right to be there, and was loved by the children I worked with and made the classroom and their day better by being there. So I hung in regardless of the small minded, gossip telling liars.
Someone may have felt jealous of you and started trouble, and since the majority of people don't have back bone, they will often go along, just so as to not be outcast themselves, cuz they don't really care that much. Most people don't really care that much about anyone but themselves. And that is unfortunate.
So you can go in there with pride in yourself and a smile on your face and ask some of you old friends to go to lunch, like nothing has happened, or you can go about your business on your own, which sounds lonely since you are in foreign country. Or you can leave. I did the smile and pride thing for 5 years, but those people were relentless. But we are talking just out of high school low social-economical level females. They really had nothing else going for themselves than to gossip and push out anyone that made them look bad by doing a good job.
donnawanda
donnawanda
I see you're from India. My husband is from India, and one problem he had when he first arrived was that he naturally and affectionately touched other men, as was normal where he came from. In western countries many men are not comfortable with physical contact from other men ... that could scare them quite a bit ; ).

Now on the opposite side, here men and women are normally comfortable holding hands and otherwise touching each other in public, whereas my husband sometimes behaves as though I have leprosy when other people are around, which hurts my feelings.

There are lots of cultural differences that could cause people to be uncomfortable. I hope you were briefed on all that before you were sent abroad.
P00hbear
P00hbear
I'm glad you found us here. It takes immense courage to move to a foreign country where you do not know anyone, and some foreign cultures aren't as accepting as others - maybe if you have something you enjoy doing, a hobby or sport, you might meet people that way? I know it's hard going into a different city, much less a different country. I find society in general these days not very accepting, so I understand and I don't think it's anything about you, I think it's societal issues. If it would help you to move back maybe that is something to be considered or as gusto mentioned, just try to make a difference and let that bring you comfort. Anyway, you are not alone and hope this helps!
billwfriend
billwfriend
welcome....why are you working overseas?
PinterestFan
PinterestFan
Don't blame yourself for how others act. If they didn't give you one hint as to why they stopped being your friend, you shouldn't miss them at all.

There are so many things you can do that are fun with a friend, but still plenty of fun, on your own. Deciding that if/when you meet people that like you, and that --you-- like, you'll get friends, instead of worrying and feeling bad, will change things for you.

Good luck :)
karanhere
karanhere
@gustokitty Yes I am on a two year contract that would end this November.The only reason I don't want to go back to my home as working here would add to my career growth.
Thanks so very much for your reply.I agree people go with majority and this is what is happening with me I guess.

Hope it changes.
karanhere
karanhere
Thanks for all your responses..it did made me feel better and more connected.I would also love to help anyone if I can..please lemme know.

God Bless You All..
annettearizona
annettearizona
I'm sorry if I'm one of those friends here you feel are ignoring you-I use to be here more often but days to the library are limited lately so I get here when I can-but I do not intend to ignore you or anyone.
I would suggest that you look into an craft or hobby that interests you or perhaps some volunteer work..that way you can meet others with the same interests when you want to
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