Also I'm brand new to the group and I have so many issues. I didn't see a group for verbal abuse but I did finally find one for emotional and physical abuse. I think my husband could have bipolar but he refuses to get properly diagnosed. I don't really have a best friend. Have a few friends that I talk to from time to time but they're all tired of hearing it

Totally understand!! I was in an emotionally abusive relationship (toward the end it got physical) marriage. It was really, really bad. I was living in Westchester, NY, an exclusive area in New York. After we got married, he talked me into moving in with him. I became isolated, I didn't know anyone there. He liked it that way. About a year into the marriage, it got nasty, so I went to a women's shelter to get some help. They were great!! They asked me if I wanted to stay, and told me to bring my daughter too (she was a baby) It was actually the prettiest women's shelter I have ever seen, and I was shocked. They were going to take care of me. Went home & I started packing my things and almost left. I get home and he talks me out of it, he's crying and all that. I was hesitant but stupidly took him back. Nothing had changed, he was still the same. Finally I DID LEAVE.... Now--the BEST thing you can do is LEAVE. AND soon. It sure as heck will get worse down the road, I sure as heck know.

TiredOIA, You can talk to me, anytime. I thought the same thing of my husband but he said he tested negative for bipolar, but I couldn't believe everything he said. I usually believed him, then when I'd find out something was false, it hurt.
I separated from him domicile-wise. He went back to live with his family and we just "talked" on the phone mostly everyday, several times a day. Often I'd have to unplug from him even on the phone ...We would visit eachother though. I think that's the way it has to be if they're abusive.
In the end he became less aggravating/physically aggressive, and/or actually it was me who learned to adapt and understand him to the point that I knew how to handle him- what to do and not do. He didn't like me not reacting to his unnecessary chaos. He wanted a challenge/excitement. He's gone now (end of January). He had diabetes. He had just turned 56. I believe he really did love me. At least he always said so and I choose to believe it. We got married after 6 mos. or so and were married 6 yrs 2 mos. I miss him, yes. I was just starting to adapt to him and love him more.. You know the more you do for someone the more you love them. It's an investment. Familiarity doesn't always breed contempt but an understanding, and knowing how to cope/ love.
I wish you the best with your man...

maria718 and vwidow, thank you so much for your responses and for caring and understanding. I'm sorry it has taken me so long to respond. It's still going on this time. He was taking Celexa and I think he totally went off of it. But I think he is bipolar and that wouldn't be the right medication anyway. It's just so hard. He's the primary breadwinner and we've been married 28 years. Anyway just wanted to thank you for your support and tell you both that I'm so sorry for what you've been through also. Hugs and prayers!!