Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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mycroftt 04/26/2011

Met someone in a 12 step meeting and made it clear that I was having some difficulty as I know that she was...there were NO sexual overtures to my interactions...and still I got little offer of understanding or willingness to help ,,she just dashed away..well..there are issues there for sure...nice lady but it really upsets me when people disregard pleas even vailed pleas to talk and just air what is going on,,,I know in fact she was hurting..and so was I for other reason and fear or paranoia cancels all thoughts to get involved..

deleted_user 04/26/2011

I get where you are coming from, but try not to take in personally. You all are in the group to discuss/heal but whose to say how deep her issues run or what all she has had to deal with in life, in particular relating to men. You never know, she may circle back with an explanation, or not - regardless don't let it stop you from reaching out to others to offer a shoulder in the future. Just be aware with women, you may need to tread really lightly. Take care.

deleted_user 04/26/2011

Hello Mycroftt, Good for you getting to a 12 step meeting. I don't know if you have found a sponsor but they are there to listen and help. Sponsors are almost always the same gender and I suggest if you look for a sponsor do the same. I have lots of experience and have had good sponsors and a good sponsor will always be there for you. If' you are new to 12 step meetings, you may not know about sponsorship, and if that's the case I suggest you ask about it. Best wishes, and that's why we are all here. To find others who can and will listen to us. Mike

Serce 04/26/2011

Try hard to resist that inclination...don't make someone else's journey your own. Some people have used up every ounce of courage just walking through that door to go to a meeting...not courageous enough to really talk yet. Have whatever is on their shoulders going on and that is all they can do......

Try to keep your mind open and just be aware that all you can do is be kind and extend greetings too many and see what may develop in time.

An opportunity to chat, share or for more of a friendship to develop. Keep your focus in the present...our minds like to shred our confidence and lead us towards doubt and worry. Resist...push it away and hang in there!

deleted_user 04/27/2011

Hi Microff,
Congrats on the 12 step program! I really benefitted from one as well. Do I understand your comments about the lady in the program to mean you wanted to just talk to her and she wasn't interested?

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