I remember when my wife divorced me after a 24 year marriage, I was terrified to be alone. After the initial shock wore off, I began to look at every day, as a new adventure. I would talk to myself alot and pretend I was my own best friend. I would look at myself in the mirror every morning and tell myself how handsome I was even though my hair was not combed :-)

My point is, that when you feel good about yourself, and when you love yourself, and have a love and a zest for life, you become like a magnet and you draw others to you, and want some of that light you are shining in their direction.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YQIBIW6eT8I&t=0s&list=WL&index=32


God Bless

This has happened to me over the years. I was extremely popular, had tons of friends. Some went their own way, some moved, some married, one became a religious nut, another one mental illness. I've been divorced for quite a while, I have only one older daughter, no grandkids, so, believe me, I know what you are talking about. I joined a pool club and a gym, I have to keep active so it doesn't get to me. I wrote to an advice columnist in the Newspaper (Ask Amy) and her suggestion was to join things, because if you go to the same place every day, or on a regular schedule, you will see the same people all the time, and this would be how to make friends and bond. So far, from joining the pool and the gym, I am talking more to some regular women I see there all the time. I am hoping something will develop from this. The people I speak to seem very friendly. So....this seems to be working so far, maybe you should give it a shot, what have you got to lose? I think this Columnist may be right.

@maria718 I like what the columnist told you. I think it's a great idea and I think I will do that also, starting with the gym :)

God Bless

I so appreciate all of the replies!!!! Too funny -I actually had Ask Amy publish one of my ?s years ago. I think what I’m trying to say is that these losses are huge ones to me-decades worth of close friendship just gone. It is like a death. I can easily meet people but now am starting to wonder why bother -to start all over only to end up hurt just feels like too much to bear. Losing a friend is truly one painful thing.

Same thing happenes to me.so heartbreaking

Good Evening!

I know that a person can still feel alone with someone there but thank God your not like me. I don't even have a husband or companion to share my days and nights with.