Ahh Heretic, you darling lady. This breaks my heart. I think we are all worthy of love. I too have not yet found mine. All around, I see others who have found love and I question why not me? I completely understand you feeling like this xoxo

Thank you for understanding, I really needed the support today.

I think I am hindering my chances of finding love by not going out
anywhere. I have to make some changes in my lifestyle to get what
I want.

I hope you find that someone special soon aloneparent, Big Hugs

Yea, you're right. It's up to us to make the changes and put ourselves out there more. I know I've become a bit of a hermit. Of course other things in life can hinder us like illness, responsibilities. We need to make our social lives more of a priority. Lots of love to you x

awww I understand exactly how you ladies feel-I deal with that feeling a lot, especially this time of year.

Heretic, if you're referring to me, that is not what I said. Are you referring to the private messages we exchanged when I provided you with the Catholic Charities info. I private messaged you trying to help you with your homeless situation you have been talking about here on the board because I was asked to.

yes you are =)

but you are worthy and precious too

I don't expect anyone to care for me all my life. That I need to do myself. Bottom line is, if I don't do it, nobody else will.

You need to do likewise.
It doesn't mean we're unworthy of anything. It just means that the bottom line is that each and every one of us is responsible first to ourselves.

There is a high cost that comes with being "cared for": loss of autonomy. Its too high a price imo, and I am unwilling to pay it. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt.

Yes.

And if that love doesn't come from a human, you might have to find it, minus sex, in an animal, or you're going to have to find God.

I have family and friends who care ABOUT me. But someone to care FOR me, in the sense of paying all my living expenses so I can be lazy and coast through life? Nope. And I don't want that anyway, because, yes, it comes with a high price tag, namely giving up all my personal freedom to someone who controls my life, for their own selfish, nefarious purposes.

Continue to care FOR yourself, honey. But do reach out so that someone may care ABOUT you.

Earthly, fleshly love doesn't seem to be in the cards for me. When it did present itself, it seemed weak, not strong enough for me somehow, just full of pain, aggravation and torment.

So, if I'm meant to live out my life without a flesh lover, that's OK. I'm OK with that. I've got God in my heart, I love to ride a bicycle, I love nature, I've got family and a few good friends I enjoy, and I've got creative projects to do.

God said it is not good for man to be alone so now we have millions of people to befriend but must have the courage to do so.

Imagine someone who is perfectly healthy and well who is very happy and always has been. What do you think would happen to him if he were locked up completely alone with nobody to express himself to? I believe it would not be long that he would be messed up and very emotionally unstable. I really believe we need and are meant to be loved and we need to express love to others. We must find ways to do this so we can feel good about ourselves. I hope this helps my dear friend.

I find myself asking the same question. I'd much rather be alone asking if I'm worth being loved than in a relationship sitting next to your partner asking the same thing.
Yes you are worthy of being loved.