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am i losing my best friend?

milo237
milo237
So I have known this guy for around 6 years now. thats a lot of time for someone to be good friends and not worry about losing each other, but recently some things have come up and I just feel we dont know each other like we used to. I know its not in my head and its real. anyways my friend just got a job so he has been super busy all the time, we couldn talk like we used to and i tried to understand. I gave him time to adjust and make time for me but its been more than 3 months now and we still argue on him being too busy for me. I tried to talk to him but every time i do we end up arguing. a few days back i asked him again and he gave me the same reply. and now im just tired of being the one asking him for his time. i dont know what to do. i havent talked to him because i mean we are supposed to be friends he has to reach out to me too. am i going crazy or is my bff really at fault? what should i do? because i really dont want to lose him over this. we have been friends for so long and i dont want to end this. should i talk to him again? which will only make him angry or should just give up and let him realize what he's missing? this is really stressing me out. any sort of advice would be great. thankyou whoever responds!
lostlife65
lostlife65
I don't always give good advice, so please take this with a grain of salt. My opinion is are you sure you are just friends with him? There is no other feelings you have for him? Since you are just friends you need to let him do his job and give him some space to adjust. I know it's been 3 months, but let him seek you out.

Again, I can be totally off and someone else may have better advice then me. It's just my humble opinion.

Good luck
annettearizona
annettearizona
Are you able to go stay with family or friends for a short time? Let him see physically what it is like without you around?
looney1
looney1
Hard as it might be it may be best to just respect his decision and let it go for a while. You don't want to risk making things worse. Friendships do go up and down, hot and cold and this is normal. Can you pursue your own interests and let go for a while? He may be more likely to contact you in his own time if he doesn't feel pressured.
milo237
milo237
@lostlife65 that thought may have crossed my mind at times. l guess adding that we remained together for a year shall explain the weird attachment I have with him.
@lonney1 yeah thats what I am thinking. He just got more busy with his brothers wedding and all. Im just going to let him be for a while. maybe catch up later thanks for your help i really appreciate it :)
Calebb
Calebb
Am impressed by Looney's advice. It is exactly what I was thinking.
(Hi L.. :)
But then again, you haven't told us if this person is the number one person in your life.
If he is, well maybe this is a -- and, um, maybe I'd think about developing another interest like photography or additional education.
/Or music lessons & membership in a muse group.
good luck, Caleb
milo237
milo237
thanks caleb! I recently bought my very first dslr. I am going to try out some photography soon :) hope it takes my mind off of things
billwfriend
billwfriend
Id leave him alone because just trying now is causing arguments thats not going to attract him back
milo237
milo237
thanks i did. or at least i tried not to bring it up so much. things are fine at the time being.
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