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Hi Guys...
Its been a while since I have posted but I really need your advices.
It goes like this my gf and I were very good friends but she had a bf at that time and I had no feeling for her.
But after spending time I fell in love with her and told her everything.
She was not happy with her bf as he had cheated on her for a year.
She said no to me at first and I was devastated but then she came back and we were together.
But her bf calls her everyday fighting and all and she picks up his phone but talks to her rudely.
When I asked her not to pick the phone she said that I have to or else he would call her parents and create a scene.It made sense to me and I asked her to take the time she wants.
But lately I have realized that we have been fighting everyday on one thing or the other.
I could feel her loss of interest in me.She tries to control this relation.
And since I love her and don't want to lose her I don't say anything.
Whenever I say anything she says you are judging me etc.
Yesterday she told me that I don't give her space to talk to any guy the she wants.
I feel that she doesn't even care whether I am or am not in this relation.She never reply to my love msgs.
I don't understand what is happening.We are the same two people who used to be there always and now look at us.
Every time I hug her or show my love it feels I am doing it with a Robot.
I have talked to her about this but it doesn't change anything
Am I being over possessive or paranoid??
I don't know what to do.
Its been a while since I have posted but I really need your advices.
It goes like this my gf and I were very good friends but she had a bf at that time and I had no feeling for her.
But after spending time I fell in love with her and told her everything.
She was not happy with her bf as he had cheated on her for a year.
She said no to me at first and I was devastated but then she came back and we were together.
But her bf calls her everyday fighting and all and she picks up his phone but talks to her rudely.
When I asked her not to pick the phone she said that I have to or else he would call her parents and create a scene.It made sense to me and I asked her to take the time she wants.
But lately I have realized that we have been fighting everyday on one thing or the other.
I could feel her loss of interest in me.She tries to control this relation.
And since I love her and don't want to lose her I don't say anything.
Whenever I say anything she says you are judging me etc.
Yesterday she told me that I don't give her space to talk to any guy the she wants.
I feel that she doesn't even care whether I am or am not in this relation.She never reply to my love msgs.
I don't understand what is happening.We are the same two people who used to be there always and now look at us.
Every time I hug her or show my love it feels I am doing it with a Robot.
I have talked to her about this but it doesn't change anything
Am I being over possessive or paranoid??
I don't know what to do.
P00hbear
It sounds as if she is not respecting you enough to care for your feelings. Wanting her time and attention and affection is not needy, it is part of a healthy relationship. There must be trust and a mutual respect, and without it the relationship will be challenging. It is not normal to be picking up calls from an ex, or have the desire to talk to multiple men - once I met my husband, I kept any existing male friends I had, but I didn't really make new ones. If she isn't interested in the relationship I am not sure there is a lot you can do. I would ask her to be truthful with you about whether or not she wants to stay in the relationship, you deserve an honest answer, and if she truly does you can figure out from there how to improve it, and decide if you want to stay in it - if she doesn't then you need to start working on separating from it....
deleted_user
I have to be blunt...it sounds as if she is using you. Too many red flags...sorry. :(
mycroftt
Get out of the very bad habit of expecting anything..it will only make you nuts in the end and nothing will be resolved,,,if something happens ..it happens on its own,,,
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