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39 forever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

azendometriosis
azendometriosis
I don't like it that I'm turning 40....But it's hard to find people to understand me.....I have been on one date my whole life....I don't want to hear from someone, 'so'......it's funny how people have always gotten upset about not believing my age....they actually demanded to see my license....shoot...when I was 11 everyone thought I was 7....but I haven't heard anything lately about not looking 40..I hear it, but not very often......I get a lot of judgemental comments, negative....'u don't need a man to complete you'...'get yourself together before you start looking'....I've never looked in my life and I've been a single mom living alone, thank you! (which was known to these idiots making the comments)....course this was all crap comments from my last place of employment...so maybe I am better off in extreme isolation...no job, no dates, no boyfriends, no friends.hardly any neigbors.....and ....just glad I'm not suffering anymore with health crap issues (again that people didn't understand):(.... :))....I should be asleep at 3 am!!!....There are jokes about being 'over the hill', etc....when I first heard of this when I was younger, I learned that many many many people struggle with turning 40......I just don't feeling like telling anyone, "do u think I'm the only 39 woman in the history of time that ever had a problem with turning 40?" give me a break.....they want to try to make u feel a certain way....you'll be fine.....it's not big deal....well, whatever...to me it is a huge giant deal.....I guess I just hate a lack of even empathy from people that I do know, that I should probably not want to get to know anyway
deleted_user
deleted_user
Just my two cents of course, I may be right or wrong, but I think you will find that milestone birthdays are the hardest for women to cope with.
I am so hearing you on this, as I have 10 years on you, this is my last year of my 40's, I will be 50 in January and I am not happy about it at all.
I have no grey hair or wrinkles, but I am starting to get those old lady hands with the veins, and my neck is not as firm as it once was.

It is hard to watch those sorts of changes, and I feared them since I was a teen, which is why I find myself at nearly 50 wrinkle free, my paranoia of getting old when I was still young forced me to stay out of the sun, not to smoke or drink and to really take good care of my skin. It has paid off in spades.

I know this will probably not make you feel better, sort of like somebody wishing they were 49 rather than their 59, won't make me feel better, as I can not feel their age, only my own.

Just do something nice for yourself it is an important birthday !
Vickie xx
deleted_user
deleted_user
lots of insensitive pple out there, sounds youve met your share of them, and so have i. 40 is a big deal, actually all the birthdays that end in zero are like that. for alot of pple turning 40 can be a time of looking back, feeling sad they didnt end up where they had hoped to be. and dont think its just a big deal for women either. men too feel those zero birthdays. but be glad you are only turning 40, gosh id like to go back to 39 gonna be 40 tomorrow. ive passed the 50 mark a couple or so yrs ago, that was a hard one too.

i think you have to try and view it like, hey i feel the same today as yesterday when the clock said i was 39 not 40. the mental attitude is important. maybe you can make a list of things you havent done yet in life youd like to do at 40. some pple do have better more productive yrs in their 40s than 30s. im hoping i can say that the 50s will be better than the 40s, lets hope so anyway..lol.

happy 40th, have a great day.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Everybody is different and for some turning 40 might not be a big deal and for others it is. You have the right to feel however you want to and no one should tell you different. Turning 40 for me was a big deal because prior to that I thought there was hope for me but now that I'm over 40 I feel like time is running out. No matter what age you are you deserve to be happy. Maybe you don't want to hear it I don't know but I want to wish you a Happy Birthday anyways and you definitely don't look like you are anywhere near 40.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's okay to be angry. If it feels like a loss to you, it is a loss to you. Maybe you do have to mourn this change, I think most of us inside have not been happy about aging in a youth focused society. But since you can't change your age, once you are done communicating those feelings and working them through, what do you want to do with the time and energy that you have left?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sorry to turn it in another direction. I had trouble turning 30. When I turned 40 I threw a party. I like myself better in my forties than I did in my twenties. I am 44. I shoud have done this first. (When I was in my early twenties I was messing up my life.) I think the advantage is that I have a lot more wisdom now than I did years ago. I think that my life is getting better with age.
. 40 is a turning point in many ways. We are confronted with the reality that of our mortality and the aging process. Men and women struggle with it. I have seen people get crazy at that time. How we view it and process it depends on the person. You have a right to your feelings whatever they are. We can not always share what we feel with everyone. Some people will make the matter worse.
I have cousins in the same age range that I am. They get mad at me for telling my age. It remains to be seen how I will handle 50.
deleted_user
deleted_user
My mom always says these types of people have limited vision and incapable of understanding you or supporting you.
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