Life After Divorce Support Group
This community is dedicated to starting over after a divorce. With the marriage over, how do individuals begin a new chapter in their lives and what hurdles do they face? Divorce is often one of the most traumatic periods in a person's life. Studies show it is the second-most stressful event in life, after the death of a spouse.
Any ideas on how one starts over? My future and family as I envisioned it is falling apart. Why not work to get better? Staying bitter won't help anyone ~ you, me, or the children.
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I had gone to the grocery store. When I wheeled my cartback to my car I just stool there a minute. A few spacesaway a Tesla Cyber truck was parked. I had seen it on theroad a few times for a few seconds. But not close up.It looked like it belonged to 2126 and not 2026. I wasgoing to take a picture of the car but the owners cameback and drove away. It was an ordinary middle age...
1. Time - yes you're tired of hearing that time will heal all wounds. In general, it will, but only if you are on a positive track in life.
2. Self-improvement. You do this for YOU and for your kids. Not for your soon-to-be-ex-wife. Take all of the negative energy and channel it the best you can into motivation to improve yourself.
3. Remain focused on your kids. Do your best to make this transition as painless as possible (it won't be, but try). Put them first. Take the high road and never speak ill of their mother in front of them. Believe me, I got that advice on THIS website in 2015 and I'm so damned glad that I did. 8 years and not a single negative word about my daughter's mother. And my daughter and I get along very well (50/50 custody).
4. Google "men's divorce forum" and start reading and studying. If you are hoping for a divorce settlement that is fair, you should expect it to be a part time job for you to achieve it. I'm not kidding. Do the google, go to the site, read "the list". Pay close attention. Read other guys' stories. Do not take this lightly. False accusations of physical abuse can ruin your life and your future relationship with your kids. Protect yourself.
5. Focus on getting the divorce done. Do not find yourself a new woman during this time or it will make the divorce a bigger headache. You can and will start over when the time is right. When things have settled down.
6. Find a good attorney who is an advocate for men in divorce (if possible - not easy - interview a few).
My (cheating) ex divorced me when I was 41. I got remarried last year at 48. Starting over will happen when it's the right time. But for right now you need to seriously protect yourself while the emotions are raging.
Best wishes,
-Steppin'.
1. Time - yes you're tired of hearing that time will heal all wounds. In general, it will, but only if you are on a positive track in life.
2. Self-improvement. You do this for YOU and for your kids. Not for your soon-to-be-ex-wife. Take all of the negative energy and channel it the best you can into motivation to improve yourself.
3. Remain focused on your kids. Do your best to make this transition as painless as possible (it won't be, but try). Put them first. Take the high road and never speak ill of their mother in front of them. Believe me, I got that advice on THIS website in 2015 and I'm so damned glad that I did. 8 years and not a single negative word about my daughter's mother. And my daughter and I get along very well (50/50 custody).
4. Google "men's divorce forum" and start reading and studying. If you are hoping for a divorce settlement that is fair, you should expect it to be a part time job for you to achieve it. I'm not kidding. Do the google, go to the site, read "the list". Pay close attention. Read other guys' stories. Do not take this lightly. False accusations of physical abuse can ruin your life and your future relationship with your kids. Protect yourself.
5. Focus on getting the divorce done. Do not find yourself a new woman during this time or it will make the divorce a bigger headache. You can and will start over when the time is right. When things have settled down.
6. Find a good attorney who is an advocate for men in divorce (if possible - not easy - interview a few).
My (cheating) ex divorced me when I was 41. I got remarried last year at 48. Starting over will happen when it's the right time. But for right now you need to seriously protect yourself while the emotions are raging.
Best wishes,
-Steppin'.