Lesbian Relationship Challenges Support Group
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I posted earlier under http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Lesbian_Relationship_Challenges/advice/18072777-im-feeling-losthelp-please.
(The issue is resolved...it WAS all in my head. My girlfriend is autistic & often feels awkward looking people in the eye, even me - which explained her avoiding my gaze. I was having a very bad week when my paranoia was all time high, because a lot was going on with me and others around me, and because my girlfriend was busy at the time I mistook that for inattentiveness. I know now that the opposite is true...we have seen each other a few times since & I know in my heart she loves me. She looks at me with pure love in her eyes and she spoils me like a princess.)
Anyway...
I have some advice to ask for.
We have been seeing each other for 7 months, officially 5. She lives an hour & a half drive away. We both live alone. I live in my mother's owned house but she is never there - she is in her own loved up relationship. I have no job - I was made redundant last year and I have had terrible luck with finding a job.
To be honest...I'm miserable. I feel stuck. I have no money, no true friends, nothing to do with my life and it's making me very depressed. My girlfriend suggested I look for work near her...There is a lot more going because she lives near a few big cities. My question is...
Is it too soon?
I think living with her would be a lovely thing for us both. But I am worried about killing what we do have. I think our relationship is so nice because we have distance, and seeing each other once a week is so exciting.
But at the same time...I'm sad, here. Very sad, and very lonely. My only happiness comes from her visits, and my visits to her.
She cannot move here because she has a poorly mother who she wants be close to in case anything happens. She also has a younger brother who lives with her mother, and wants to stay around for him too.
Thoughts, anyone?
(The issue is resolved...it WAS all in my head. My girlfriend is autistic & often feels awkward looking people in the eye, even me - which explained her avoiding my gaze. I was having a very bad week when my paranoia was all time high, because a lot was going on with me and others around me, and because my girlfriend was busy at the time I mistook that for inattentiveness. I know now that the opposite is true...we have seen each other a few times since & I know in my heart she loves me. She looks at me with pure love in her eyes and she spoils me like a princess.)
Anyway...
I have some advice to ask for.
We have been seeing each other for 7 months, officially 5. She lives an hour & a half drive away. We both live alone. I live in my mother's owned house but she is never there - she is in her own loved up relationship. I have no job - I was made redundant last year and I have had terrible luck with finding a job.
To be honest...I'm miserable. I feel stuck. I have no money, no true friends, nothing to do with my life and it's making me very depressed. My girlfriend suggested I look for work near her...There is a lot more going because she lives near a few big cities. My question is...
Is it too soon?
I think living with her would be a lovely thing for us both. But I am worried about killing what we do have. I think our relationship is so nice because we have distance, and seeing each other once a week is so exciting.
But at the same time...I'm sad, here. Very sad, and very lonely. My only happiness comes from her visits, and my visits to her.
She cannot move here because she has a poorly mother who she wants be close to in case anything happens. She also has a younger brother who lives with her mother, and wants to stay around for him too.
Thoughts, anyone?
That was my partner and I we lived 2.5hrs away from each other. At about 4 months we moved in together. After working on few items i carried in from my last relationship and a few of her underlying issues its been amazing. We are going on 7 official months and couldn't be happier... It was nice living apart and having that excitement but now our excitement is getting to see each other everynight after work and having our weekends together to relax.
I hope this helps and good luck!!!
p.s. MISS YOU!