Jealousy Support Group
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Seems like I can never go out into a social situation without eventually feeling jealous over my husband and something or someone else. Very frustrating!(For both of us, I know) He is a wonderful man, I am most positive that I never have to worry about him straying or doing anything like that that would hurt me.
We're both pretty social but I would say him more than I since I have all these annoying hang-ups. So I think when I see him with some other woman having fun it bothers me and makes me think he is enjoying their company way more than he could ever enjoy mine. I get so conflicted. I know that how I act is hard on him too and I want him to be able to have fun and good times because he deserves it. But at the same time I remember that I've never been good with sharing certain things that mean a lot to me.
It happens a lot too. Lately I know I've been trying harder but than I'll get jealous and it feels like I'm making no progress. It happens when we're in big crowds or even when it's just us and our friends. It even got to the point where I got jealous of him and my best friend! They weren't even doing anything just laughing and talking and in my jealous mind it felt like they were really hitting it off.
The last incident was Halloween of course. I was so excited all day and told myself to just have fun and not worry about anything, even though I knew there would be a bunch of sexy ladies running around wearing nothing. And all was well until later in the night when I let the green eye monster take over for a minute and I felt so bad I made a comment to my husband and a friend about some thing like 'why don't you just go off together' and walked away. She came after me and listened to me rant. She was supportive. Then I decided I should just go home and I think that was the best idea.-
I apologized the next day to him and he said he was getting used to it. That made me feel so bad, because its true. He is sticking by me in all this and letting me just do my jealous thing because he loves me and knows I have a problem, yet i STILL do it!!!!!. I know the reason I get this way is because I don't feel confident enough in myself, it is nothing to do with him really. I have always had the worst self-esteem and it effects all these people that I love. And that night it started to feel like i was the ugliest thing walking the town. He was having all this fun with these cute little costumed girls and i felt like shit. Really immature of me but the feelings are so real.
We're both pretty social but I would say him more than I since I have all these annoying hang-ups. So I think when I see him with some other woman having fun it bothers me and makes me think he is enjoying their company way more than he could ever enjoy mine. I get so conflicted. I know that how I act is hard on him too and I want him to be able to have fun and good times because he deserves it. But at the same time I remember that I've never been good with sharing certain things that mean a lot to me.
It happens a lot too. Lately I know I've been trying harder but than I'll get jealous and it feels like I'm making no progress. It happens when we're in big crowds or even when it's just us and our friends. It even got to the point where I got jealous of him and my best friend! They weren't even doing anything just laughing and talking and in my jealous mind it felt like they were really hitting it off.
The last incident was Halloween of course. I was so excited all day and told myself to just have fun and not worry about anything, even though I knew there would be a bunch of sexy ladies running around wearing nothing. And all was well until later in the night when I let the green eye monster take over for a minute and I felt so bad I made a comment to my husband and a friend about some thing like 'why don't you just go off together' and walked away. She came after me and listened to me rant. She was supportive. Then I decided I should just go home and I think that was the best idea.-
I apologized the next day to him and he said he was getting used to it. That made me feel so bad, because its true. He is sticking by me in all this and letting me just do my jealous thing because he loves me and knows I have a problem, yet i STILL do it!!!!!. I know the reason I get this way is because I don't feel confident enough in myself, it is nothing to do with him really. I have always had the worst self-esteem and it effects all these people that I love. And that night it started to feel like i was the ugliest thing walking the town. He was having all this fun with these cute little costumed girls and i felt like shit. Really immature of me but the feelings are so real.
Rivasllene, My relationship used to be like that, where I was the volatile one and he always tried to keep me calm and make me feel better. But he finally got fed up, so that doesn't work for us anymore. He doesn't feed into my 'tantrums" anymore, so I have no choice but to stay calm and bite my tongue. he didn't go to the club on Saturday, and we had a fairly decent weekend. I also mentioned to him that we have to sit down and discuss the different get-togethers next month, and that there has to be some sort of compromise. He agreed, so we'll see how that goes. Good luck ladies :)