I had to learn to not even give a crap. It really ate at me at first and the outright rude comments but I just do not care. It gets easier with time and though I do not have kids I have two white nephews and one looks just like me so when people see me with the kid and my husband we get odd looks LOL Some people are so ignorant.

We have been together for 4 years today and where we are from, it was not a big deal and people got over it fast. But now that we are further south, Mississippi, its like we are in a different world. At first when we started dating we got looks but i was able to get past it bc i grew up there and i knew alot of people. So after a while it was no big deal. But now that we are in Mississippi, its like they dont like to see us together and they give us these dirty looks like we are doing something wrong. I know that everyone has their thoughts, but we love eachother, we are engaged, have a baby together, have lost 2 babies together by miscarriage and he is a great father to both my boys and doesnt treat my oldest son any different then his blood son. I dont see why people cant just get over it and let people live the way that they want to live.

Tbbrandyn,

It is quite difficult to be stared at by others in a hostile way. It looks to me that you and your bf are very much in love and you have managed the reactions of others before, but now the intensity of the reactions is up a notch and it is clearly bothering you. What about your bf? How is he reacting to this?

i honestly dont know. he wont say anything to me. but he does notice the looks at times too. i think to me that i notice it more where are living now bc there are not that many white/black couples as there are where we are from. I may see 10 mixed couples a week here but where we are from i would see 5 a day every day. plus this is still a newplace to us, more him them me. we have been here lil over a year now but it just seems that there are people here that dont like that we are together. i knew the town where we are from bc thats where i grew up but i used to come down here, where we were are at now, all the time bc we are living in my grandmothers house that my mother lived in when she was a kid. so its like a second home to me but with the way that people are acting around here it makes it hard for us to go and do anything as a couple in town bc people gives us looks. i try not to let it get to me but theres only so much that i can take from the looks from other people and its worse when they give me the look when i have our kids with us. i jut want to beat them. my oldest son, who will be 8 in 8 days, dont even see color. he sees people for people and i raised him to be like that and i wish other people would be the same way. things are different then they where 20 years ago. you cant help who you fall in love with.

My husband and I have not had this experience. I have often wondered why but part of it may be where we live. We live in the Pacific Northwest now. Prior to that we lived in Florida but generally when people stared it was with a warm smile never with hostility, and that is how we are treated by our neighbors as well as friends.

I will say one thing I have noticed however when I see other interracial couples........ there is sometimes an uneasiness on their part. As if they expect to see some hostility projected towards them and therefore their guard is up before anything happens. I'm sure this is due to the experience of having felt that hostility first hand so there is a kind of defensiveness sometimes that is sensed by others. Not saying that is the case with you but this is just something I've noticed.

I guess I would say you can't really control how people see you or feel about you so I think its best to just try not to make other peoples issues a problem for you. If they have an issue with you being in an interracial relationship that is their problem not yours. I know it can be annoying but you win by be able to be at peace even though they are projecting their own misery.

Where I live, my husband and I are the only black/white couple. I have to travel to a bigger city to see others and because we are both over 55 there are less of this age and more younger couples. Whether they are married, dating or just friends I don't have a clue.

My point being, strangers don't know your status therefore they are judging you. That's what you are upset about. It's wrong, but most people are going to judge and gossipers also.

We don't have the right to judge them either and have to learn to smile and go on our way, happy in our own lives, leaving them to be miserable in theirs.

it does hurt when u get those evil stares ppl should look at you two seeing they look like a happy beautiful couple. i learned to ignore it and not give a damn i like what i like and its none of ppl's biz.