Onyx,

But then one must have the ability to break the rules.

Yes you on the money, but takes loss of heart to open thy legs.

Holy crap is my wife going through a mid-life crisis. I agree with you. But it is not all women, just like it is not all men.

M,

Correct you got to have no heart to do such activities.

Damn, I wasn't feeling tooooo bad until I read your post. WTF... I'm 55 - does that mean my life is over?????????????????

I think cigarrman is correct - they don't have much heart - not much thought process going on up stairs - they are selfish as crap - and feel as if time is slipping them by - let me hurry up and do some crazytown action.

I think that is the over simplified version of it but there is so much more to it then that and again its not all women.

If I started to even dabble into it - I would have to write a whole book on it - then a lifetime movie on it - then a screen play for it - wait thats all been done.

So there are so many layers to why one does what one does - like an onion - and its truely sad when you are the person who this happens to.

I now see these stories everywhere - before in my life I never paid attention to them because they seemed so foreign - so silly - so self distructive - so not real - now its playing out before my very eyes (as this is to most of us here).

suxs. I should have been the cheated - but then I couldnt live with the guilt or myself.

We humans all of us are capable of murder, yes all of us.

But how many will do it.

That is the issue.

No logic required.

It's not only women, it is anyone who all of a sudden get's the feeling that life is slipping by and who are so self-absorbed they don't stop to think about anyone else or the consequences of their actions. They just go after what they want and to hell with anyone else.
Happens both ways - male and female and those without a conscience. It is just very hard on all those affected by the fallout.

new2free - I think that is a very good point - that they feel life is slipping them by.

Yes - the fallout is the hardest thing especially when you have children. I think you take an oath when you get married and another oath when you have children.

Kids are a huge variable too. They go from being incredibly dependent little time sucks, to needing us much less.

What is that old saying -- the idle mind is the Devil's workshop

since my time in crazy town in my later 40's I have heard of more and more women going sex crazed in their 40's. this is something I knew nothing about until I went through it.

For me, I had lost a lot of weight, which played into it. Men began flirting with me and this had never happened before in my life. I got married very young.

My kids were almost all grown up. Our youngest close to graduation. I had allowed them to fulfill my needs for years. I loved the activity and banter in the home. I was worried about them being gone. I felt I would be very lonely, as H and I didn't really interract all that much. We lived very separate lives.

I am self-employed and had a lot of autonomy and not much demand from the children, nor did my H and I check in with each other during the day.

I was very vulnerable to attention from men. I never thought I would cheat but I was not in a good place and then a very skilled womanizer who targets married women began flirting with me and I was very responsive to it. That's where it began. This one didn't last long, but by then I was in crazy town. After a few months I met a man who offered companionship+ and that was the PA. By the time OM#2 came along I was so deep into crazy town, I offered little resistance though I made a few weak efforts.

During my stay in crazy town, I would often say I wanted experiences, since my H is the only one I had ever been with. I had never even kissed another man. The one thing I was desiring is the biggest loss we sustained. Our exclusivity to each other.

Crazy-town admits all stages and ages of people, but for me, mid-life was a big part of it. My life was different than it had ever been before in a lot of ways and I was in quite a number of transitions.

Gabby,

But then there is logic.

My family means everything to me.

Obviously was not meanful to you.

Based on your post, I can go to crazytown get drunk and crash car into bus with school children.

Same effect, if your husband would have thrown you to the curb correct.

Perhaps if society didn't make us feel as if we were washed up at 40, we wouldn't feel like that. Not that everyone endsup having an affair, but women sure are made to feel that their value drops after they get to be a certain age or if their looks fade.

Red,

Nothing new been that way for 1000's of years.

We just add logic and reasoning to it.

Same for us men, look I cannot go hunting anymore.

Men in their late 50s can get women in their late 30s even if they have a beer gut and hair coming out of their ears. People call them "distinguished". I am late 40's and not hung up on my appearance, but many people are and spend way too much time worrying about it. Their whole sense of self worth is tied to their looks.

yup ... Redlegs, and we have a pill that makes our u-know-what 18 again. So, I think there is something to what your saying.

Now that I am getting older, I will add too, that my wife definitely judges and pays attention to the other women more than I do. Don't get me wrong, I am not so old as to not sneak a healthy gawk, but my wife studies them and compares.