Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I walked in on my wife and another man at is house. He is a M.D. who is also married andmy wife is a nurse who works at the same hospital/unit. Ilarned it hapend on 2 seperate occasions. once at hi home and once at the hospital in his office. This happened about a month ago and Im so messed up in my head over this. She is ashamed and cries and sobs over what has occurred. I dont know how to feel or what to do. It makes me so sick on so many levels. Any insight int what i should do or can expect to do/feel would be greatly appreciated.
Be suspicious of anyone who tells you not to do anything rash for that is akin to sitting in the middle of the house while it's on fire and lamenting about all you've lost. You wouldn't do that. You'd try to save your life, you would run out of the house and forget what you've lost. People would call you insane or crazy if you stayed in a burning house wouldn't they?
I'm not going to say that all cheaters are evil or bad but your wife did NOT have your best interest in mind when she cheated on you. Who cares what her "reasons" were. If she was unhappy, she should've have put on her big girl panties and had an adult conversation with you. It really is not that complicated.
Your house in on fire dude. Act accordingly and by all means see a lawyer which you should do without enlightening her. Actually it's best if you can get your ducks in a row and if you decide that's the way you want to go, blindside her. Some may say it's not fair but I imagine finding another man in your house was a bit of a blindside. Turn around is fair play.
The cheating spouse's only salvation when caught, is to go No Contact immediately, and serve the loyal spouse's needs.
When I first learned about my wife's affair I went straight home and locked down our accounts and anything else she could damage. We spoke off and on for a few days and I'd decided I wanted to keep the marriage going because of what a marriage means to me so I made her the offer-that I would do my best to accept everything, we simply get on with things (counseling and a separation, etc. but to agree to deal with everything and put the effort into making things really work) but she had to end things with the new guy ASAP. She said she didn't know how...translation=she wouldn't. I asked her again the next day but got the same response. I had no choice...I had to proceed and start a divorce. It's terrible but a marriage takes two.