So, my husband has now met his mistress in Singapore. He was in Berlin and planned to take her but I told him that if he did, then there would never be a chance for us to get together again, so he went alone.
He has been sending me text messages daily telling me that he was missing me and that I should have gone with him as we could have turned things around over there, and how he had to come home from the gala ball early as he missed me too much, and that Europe had good memories of us. Yesterday he left a voice message on my phone telling me he was interested in getting back together. And a text later on telling me it had been good for him to go away alone as it had made him realise that the grass was not always greener on the other side.

I have been in his life for 26 years, what woman would not believe in those things? If he says them, it is not a mistake on my part to believe them surely, it is a mistake on his part to say them at all if he did not mean them to be genuine.

I came across his revised travel itinerary today and see he was not spending another week in Germany, but rather going to Singapore for a week before coming home. Bells rang. I sent him a text and asked if he was taking her.

His reply - via Text "yep. Will spend time and see what happens. Hopefully it will lead to final decision and a commitment from me to our future". So, he is saying he needed to take her to Singapore to screw her all week so that he could decide whether or not to come back home to me after two years of hell.
And he has been promising me the world almost daily for two years, and although I try not to believe him, a part of me does, and I get beat up and let down each time I discover he is not genuine.

He says it is because he loves both of us. He is afraid to leave me as he has security there, and he does not have it with her. If he is by himself he sees himself as a failure.

I know I am better off out of this, and that I am like that person that keeps getting beaten up by the clown, as I am allowing him to do it by believing in him.

I have told him never to contact me again this time so that should take away his 'carrot dangling', but I am struggling to cope with the idea that the two of them are over there, in the place where he first proposed to me. They are together, and next week they are coming home and will continue that relationship under my nose in this small town.
I have enormous support and respect here, he does not. I know it will be hard for him, but I am much more sensitive to the whole matter than he is and I am struggling.
Tomorrow I go away for 4 days with my teenage kids, so that will be good. but how do I cope with him living with his slut in close proximity? Should I run?