Are either of you in a relationship or married?

When you begin to realize that you are worth more than the way he is treating you, you will let him/that go.

Why waste time with someone that is a "player" and with a relationship that isn't going anywhere? Aren't you worth more than that? Isn't your time more valuable than that?

Be strong...realize that you are worthy of more than what this guy is offering up and save your time/energy for someone who values who and what you are. Anything less and you are disrespecting yourself and if you don't respect yourself, why should he?

Get over yourself fast, if am someone can tell you all that you want to hear then what you want to hear is not grounded in reality, therefore it makes it easy to play.
You will continue to " buy" bullshit until you develop values ethics and moralist that are grounded in reality,

Yeah, I think the better question to ask yourself is why are players drawn to you?

Get your validation and worth from yourself not from others and you'll solve that problem.

No neither one of us are in a relationship. I am only talking to him but I found out there are several other women he is seeing and talking to

Does it matter why?
It more important that you recognize it, and want to address it.

You think about him b/c it's easier than working on yourself.

You are attracted to players b/c you have little self esteem. If you don't respect yourself, why would someone else?

Yes that is very true I dont respect myself and its something I have to work at. I guess with him always saying the right things and makes me feel good thats why I fall so hard

JustDrifting did a great job at explaining players and yes absolutely no better time to stop than right now, you already can see the trouble with this guy so why set yourself up for disaster.

If you fill your own heart with value, you won't crave it from others.

Just like they say to eat a healthy meal at home before going to a party so you're not tempted to snack on junk food!

Celebrate your gifts and talents. Believe that you deserve the best. Don't settle. You are worth it. Make a list of all your great qualities and hang it on your fridge, bathroom mirror, wall in your bedroom. Also, make a list of all the qualities you want in a man.

The more you put it out to the universe, the more you will attract it.

Worked for me!

Thanks everyone. For some reason its like they come find me. I moved on and was finally happy with my life from the last break with a player and then this guy came into my life and said all the right things.

Because players tend to be funny and sexy and confident.

That is true and they always know the right things to say. I just wish I would quit falling for them every time

Read the following articles on Self-Esteem to help not to rely upon others for validation:

http://healinginfidelity.blogspot.com/2013/09/self-esteem-infidelitys-biggest-trigger.html

http://healinginfidelity.blogspot.com/2013/10/the-path-to-self-esteem.html