As we are working through couples recovery I'm a little stuck about the part where the CS has to forgive themself.
I do know that it's part of the recovery that the CS has to forgive themself.
When did your CS forgive themself, how many months from D-day? How did that fact make you feel?
I can't help but feel disappointed almost and frustrated as unreasonable as I am. But why should I still daily go through pain and he "already" forgives himself (6 months from d-day). I can't help it but part of me feels he should feel guilty and embarrassed daily untill I'm ready to forgive.
I guess it makes me worried to know he can get past it so "easily" and only get reminded of the guilt if I make him feel guilty/remind him during my downs
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