As we are working through couples recovery I'm a little stuck about the part where the CS has to forgive themself.
I do know that it's part of the recovery that the CS has to forgive themself.
When did your CS forgive themself, how many months from D-day? How did that fact make you feel?
I can't help but feel disappointed almost and frustrated as unreasonable as I am. But why should I still daily go through pain and he "already" forgives himself (6 months from d-day). I can't help it but part of me feels he should feel guilty and embarrassed daily untill I'm ready to forgive.
I guess it makes me worried to know he can get past it so "easily" and only get reminded of the guilt if I make him feel guilty/remind him during my downs
If things have gone down increasingly in the bedroom... I mean maybe 1-2 times a month, when he is drinking... Is that a sign of infidelity, or even an interest in another woman? He is 31 and I am mid 20s. I dont understand.
Long story short, I broke my wrist last fall, had surgery and rehab twice a week for 6 weeks with a removable splint; then, as that painful process was ending, had breast cancer, two surgeries and 6 weeks of daily radiation. The good news is an excellent prognosis; the bad news is that my BF of 12 years was not attentive at all to my needs. I had almost no use of my hand for weeks while it...