As we are working through couples recovery I'm a little stuck about the part where the CS has to forgive themself.
I do know that it's part of the recovery that the CS has to forgive themself.
When did your CS forgive themself, how many months from D-day? How did that fact make you feel?
I can't help but feel disappointed almost and frustrated as unreasonable as I am. But why should I still daily go through pain and he "already" forgives himself (6 months from d-day). I can't help it but part of me feels he should feel guilty and embarrassed daily untill I'm ready to forgive.
I guess it makes me worried to know he can get past it so "easily" and only get reminded of the guilt if I make him feel guilty/remind him during my downs
Hello all.First of all. I know I’m a screw up. I caused myself so much grief and depression it’s not funny. I emotionally have cheated and had physical contact with others while in my relationship. I’ve always felt something missing and alone. I feel like I could never share what I was going through with out there two sense or just general anger. So I looked else where for that...
When in this recovery/rebuilding process does it get better? It's been 2.5 months since D-Day and although there have been some good moments, every day I experience raw, unbearable anger and pain. The whole thing seems unfair to me. We're both attending marriage counseling, but I'm also seeing an individual therapist. I'm learning how to relieve my stress, manage my anger, deal with the sadness...