As we are working through couples recovery I'm a little stuck about the part where the CS has to forgive themself.
I do know that it's part of the recovery that the CS has to forgive themself.
When did your CS forgive themself, how many months from D-day? How did that fact make you feel?
I can't help but feel disappointed almost and frustrated as unreasonable as I am. But why should I still daily go through pain and he "already" forgives himself (6 months from d-day). I can't help it but part of me feels he should feel guilty and embarrassed daily untill I'm ready to forgive.
I guess it makes me worried to know he can get past it so "easily" and only get reminded of the guilt if I make him feel guilty/remind him during my downs
Everytime I hear a lie from my current partner I feel as if I get stabbed on the inside. That the wounds dont ever show doesn't make it less real and painful. He's trying to manipulate me into thinking it never happened, breaking down the details, blurrying the lines and covering up the evidences, casting doubt and when caught and pinned down he retaliates with blaming me. I feel myself breaking...
I'm new to this but hoping I'll find some comfort and relief. Long story short, I've been with my husband for almost 10 years and he's cheated many times with many women years ago but in the past year or 2 my suspicions of history repeating itself have been validated and heart shattering, I've been clean and sober for 3 years after years of self medicating for numerous reasons and now the...