I took mine off for a few days til our 8 yearold daughter asked where it was and i said i lost it.. a few hours later she brought it to me and said it was in my jewelry box. I had given it (thrown it actually)to my h. I put it back on then so she wouldnt wonder anything. But my husband did tell me the other day he intends to have his tattooed on his finger since he cant where his to work for safety issues at work...

I never took mine off, it won't come off as long as
My marriage is still alive.

Wow! I haven't worn my wedding rings for almost three years. Just last week my H and I picked up a new, bigger, and brighter solitaire for me as you can see in my profile pic.

He totally understood why I wouldn't wear the old anymore. The old represented nothing good in our marriage. It didn't mean anything to him. Now, he looks at my ring everyday. He notices the new and the rebuilding of what marriage is supposed to be.

We eventually will be renewing our vows. When we do, I will be getting a band of diamonds to complete the process of healing.

He has payed up and down emotionally, physically, and now financially.

If you don't feel comfortable wearing your ring than don't.

I took mine off immediately as well. Then I put it back on, and took it off again every time I got angry.:) He bought me a new one. I am back to not wearing any of them. I think your plan is good. When you are ready, you will start with a new one.

Took mine off before dday when I asked him to leave. Years of suspicions and a marriage that was falling apartvvi haven't put them on since. Over two years ago.

Funny we were watching America's got talent last night and we both mentioned how weve never been to vagas. I said one day you will buy me a ring and ask me to marry you again. Thenwe ango to vagas to remarry.

I kinda wish I didn't have to put those ideas in his head.

My wife never took her ring off, even while she was fucking the OM, including the "bad behavior" with the 2 before him. I no longer look at it as a wedding ring, but merely a piece of jewelry that she wears. I suggested a "recommittment" ceremony, where I would buy her a new ring. Still waiting.....

Thanks for the comments, glad to know I am not alone. I have had a few family members ask about it and I told them, " I lost it when I gave the dogs a bath, either it came off while I was washing them or I took it off and set it down and it got lost". The story worked. When I am ready I will buy and new one and renew our vows. Vegas is a 3 1/2 drive.

I took mine off for about a week. Even after the first DDay in 2008, I looked at her ring as a thing of torment. A reminder of the fact that she did not take those vow seriously. That it really meant nothing to her, otherwise, she wouldn't have cheated.

When I took my ring off, it was literally the first time I've not worn it since the late 90's. I mean, occasionally I'd slip it off just to see if I could get over my ever-expanding chubby digits. But I never did not wear it. It meant something to me.

So when I took it off, I think at first I just wanted to hurt her. And it worked. But what did I gain out of that? Nothing. When we sat down and talked about working things out, I put it back on. And I told her that as long as we were married, I'd still wear this ring. I'd still behave like a married man, and would still oblige the vows that we made to each other.

After today, I'm most certain that this ring will be coming off. But despite that, I will still wear it until papers are signed and our marriage is dissolved. Until then, I'm still her husband, and she is still my wife. Now, it's not within my control to make sure she lives up to her end of the deal. Thus far, she hasn't been interested, so I don't have high regards for what the piece of jewelry means or doesn't mean to her.

To me it's a symbol. A powerful symbol that has been abused. While I'm not eager or enthusiastic about taking it off, I'm also not in a hurry to ever wear another one. There's too much pain to overcome. To many negative emotions.

Funny you posted this. My CS took his ring off the whole year he was romancing the OW. He gave me some lame excuse about not wearing it. I took mine off on Dday. If by some miracle the M were to be salvaged after the immense damage done, I would NEVER wear those rings again. They represent a broken bond and broken vows. Just me though.

I'm like dburney. I never took mine off, it represents being married to her and my commitment to her, which hasn't changed. If and when we are not longer "married" legally, then it will come off.

I guess because it represents my commitment to her, not her to mine, I don't see any reason to take it off. My commitment hasn't changed.

She lost hers a long time before the A ever happened. She now wishes she could find it, once she lost weight to where she could wear it again, and now that it is important to her again.

I haven't worn mine since I found out about him. My rings will never go back on. Never ever.

When I found out about the OW, I took mine off. He hadn't worn his in years prior. Wonder why?.......I guess it didn't look good for catching a piece.

Haven't wore mine for 2 years (d-day). Does not have the same meaning it once did. She even wore hers while having the affair, he was married also, so I don't think ether one thought much about the meaning of their rings and vows.

I mentioned earlier that I never took mine off, he did take his off though , during his affair which was part in the dark about our marriage. ( he lied at first) he used to take it off at work anyway for very valid safety reasons , but he kept it off after work in a snakelike manner.

Now that we are rebuilding I get pissed when I see it off, he takes it off to shower and I get mad every time, it's a trigger for me.

Mine came off when my suspicions were validated. I made a big deal about it to her, but it had very little effect (that "in the fog" stuff was mighty powerful).

I've subsequently put it back on and kept in on for the most part. I just can't give up on us yet. Tomorrow I'm moving back home after 7 months of separation. Hopefully it'll stay on, but I am prepared for the possibility that it may be over. I sincerely hope it doesn't come to that!