Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I have read a lot of the posts here from people that have been hurt by their cheating spouse and the thought occured to me that it is the turst that is placed in the cheating spouse that provides the doorway for the cheater to "cheat" and is also at the root of the profound pain that so many of us feel.
We trusted our spouse when we were told they had to work late ... or go on a business trip ... or help a friend out. We believed in our spouse and trusted that what they were telling us was the truth. The cheater uses that trust to take advantage, lie, and use those opportunities to step out and cheat. Once the betrayal of the marital vows is revealed, the pain of the betrayal of trust hits with full force.
Therein lies the true damage of infidelity. You can't have a successful relationship with someone that you can't trust. To feel safe and secure in the relationship you need to feel that you can trust your spouse and that they can trust you. Once someone has been cheated on, it becomes very difficult to trust again. This makes it very difficult to have a healthy relationship with anyone else.
I was just curious if anyone agrees with this ...
We trusted our spouse when we were told they had to work late ... or go on a business trip ... or help a friend out. We believed in our spouse and trusted that what they were telling us was the truth. The cheater uses that trust to take advantage, lie, and use those opportunities to step out and cheat. Once the betrayal of the marital vows is revealed, the pain of the betrayal of trust hits with full force.
Therein lies the true damage of infidelity. You can't have a successful relationship with someone that you can't trust. To feel safe and secure in the relationship you need to feel that you can trust your spouse and that they can trust you. Once someone has been cheated on, it becomes very difficult to trust again. This makes it very difficult to have a healthy relationship with anyone else.
I was just curious if anyone agrees with this ...
Thats what i always thought.
They want trust to cheat...cheaters always talk about 'TRUSTING' them...
Trust only God!
Trust only God!
" I screwed over you."
" Yes, you did."
He knows and now look what he has. Nothing.
With that I totally disagree!!
I know that I will never trust my H again, but I do have a relationship with him....
He knows that where he goes and what he does will always be questioned by me...
and he accepts that, because he knows that he did me completely wrong...
As someone else said, I didn't do anything to him and had no choice in the matter of another woman being brought into our lives, but he thought, how exciting it would be to have someone new and sexually exciting....
Now he see why I don't trust him and never will again.... and he has accepted it as part of our relationship...
He knows that I love him and always will, but that doesn't make me stupid ever again!!!
This guy just said "If you can't trust, you can't love."
I think that says it all.
Talk about sleeping with the enemy!
I don't look over my shoulder, but ask where have you been and who have you been with...
If he is lying, I will know it now....