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Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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Free26
Free26

my hubby would cheat while I was at work and right after he got off work (while I was at work) he was leaving for work and packed a gym bag and said she wanted to go running after work. It instantly made me nervous like oh no do i trust him is he really gonna go to the gym etc. I really wanna be able to believe his word. I hate that I'm even in this place of doubting him and our relationship. I really hate this.

GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
Hi free26. I completely understand. After I was cheated on, and devastated from it, I would definitely question where he said he was going, who he was with, etc. I mean, if you want to, you can Facetime him at the gym, and you can see the "gym stuff" in the background.

I can tell you, it can get better with time as long as HE is doing EVERYTHING to make you feel comforted, safe, secure. He must be transparent and he has to prove he was where he said he would be.

I think I recall his affair was found out by you fairly recently. This kind of thing takes some time. Trust needs to be rebuilt, but that is all on HIM to rebuild YOUR trust.
Free26
Free26
Yeh good idea
Yep last November. I have my days when we're good then I think of it again. I just want to focus on bettering myself I think that could help the process. Hes such a emotionless guy. It's so hard to read him at times. And I'm so emotional lol
Thank you
ElizaSc
ElizaSc
My H's affair was years ago and I still struggle with this too.
It got better as he was very transparent. Now he isn't as much (I don't know his cell phone password for example so the triggers have returned. I agree it is on him to not make you trigger. My H and I aren't going to make it after all.
Free26
Free26
Its crazy cuz I've always known his passwords to everything just never thought I'd need to check them smh he was like the dumbest cheater ever how easily I found out smh I'm like way to not go out ur way to hide. Ugh men can be some dumb when they're not thinking logical. I'm sorry to hear you're thinking yall won't make it! We can only take so much!
Natmachine
Natmachine
I understand how you feel. 3 months ago, I discovered that my husband was seeing women he had met on dating apps. There were hotel room stays, dinner dates and some were invited into my home while I was at work. He had condoms hidden throughout the house and in his car. Despite my best efforts and tons of therapy, I get triggered every day. He thinks it is up to me to put in the work to start trusting him again
Free26
Free26
I think some does rely on us to learn to trust nut its like 80% them and 20% us. They broke it they should do the work. Granted for me all I can work on are the issues on my part. Triggers are hard tho! Maybe try a chant when it happens
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