Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Tell me, why do some women not care where they see their man illicitly?
Why has she had sex with him in our unit, our boat?
How can she do that? Does she not have any self respect? Does she not think that perhaps it is still warm from where he had his wife not so long ago?
Take our boat for instance. Once I knew he had sex with her on the boat, I could never again relax while on that boat. I would not go into the cabin where said it happened and even anywhere else, it took great courage to cope with it. I could not bear to lie where she had.
Same as our unit where he has been living now. He had her over to sleep in his bed there, when she knew that it was a bed supplied by me and even slept in by me.
I would go over there and on the odd time when I gave in to his charms and had sex with him, I could not ever let it happen on his bed. Had to be somewhere else. I would not lie where she may have.
Why can the mistress' seem to have no shame? Is it simply that they are that sort of person anyway? Surely if their motives were at all honorable, they would at least demand from him their own territory? Do they simply not have any self respect?
She claims to be a 'good person' and this is the first mistake she has made in her life (2 years with my husband - a long mistake!). How can she possibly just accept him each time when he is often still warm from my touch?? It has to be a question of motives.
Appreciate any responses.
Why has she had sex with him in our unit, our boat?
How can she do that? Does she not have any self respect? Does she not think that perhaps it is still warm from where he had his wife not so long ago?
Take our boat for instance. Once I knew he had sex with her on the boat, I could never again relax while on that boat. I would not go into the cabin where said it happened and even anywhere else, it took great courage to cope with it. I could not bear to lie where she had.
Same as our unit where he has been living now. He had her over to sleep in his bed there, when she knew that it was a bed supplied by me and even slept in by me.
I would go over there and on the odd time when I gave in to his charms and had sex with him, I could not ever let it happen on his bed. Had to be somewhere else. I would not lie where she may have.
Why can the mistress' seem to have no shame? Is it simply that they are that sort of person anyway? Surely if their motives were at all honorable, they would at least demand from him their own territory? Do they simply not have any self respect?
She claims to be a 'good person' and this is the first mistake she has made in her life (2 years with my husband - a long mistake!). How can she possibly just accept him each time when he is often still warm from my touch?? It has to be a question of motives.
Appreciate any responses.
SHE DENIED WRONGDOING...SHE SAID "IT STARTED AS FRIENDS AND WE JUST DIDINT REALIZE HOW FAR IT WAS GOING"! SHE SAID "I WOULD NEVER BREAK UP A FAMILY", AS IF SHE HADNT!!! SHE SAID AT THE END OF THE CONVERSATION, I SWEAR ON ALL THAT IS HOLY, SHE REALLY SAID THIS, ARE YOU READY..."THE MAN I AM WITH NOW JUST LEFT HIS WIFE AND I KNOW HE WONT GO BACK TO HER"! SHE WAS OBLIVIOUS, AN IDIOT, COMPLETELY UNAWARE OF WHO SHE IS AND WHAT SHE DOES.
I DO NOT KNOW HOW PEOPLE DO THAT.
BUT MY HUSBAND SAYS THE SAME THINGS, "I WAS LYING TO MYSELF AND DRINKING WHEN THE TRUTH BROKE THROUGH"???
SO, WHEN HIS GOD GIVEN CONSCIENCE "BROKE THROUGH" HE DRANK TO SILENCE IT. I THINK HE EXPECTS ME TO UNDERSTAND THIS AND SEE IT AS LESS HIS FAULT BECAUSE HE DIDNT REALLY "KNOW" HOW MUCH DAMAGE HE WAS DOING??? BECAUSE HE LIED TO HIMSELF AND USED CHEMICALS TO PREVENT HEARING THE TRUTH? I HAVE TOLD HIM MANY TIMES THAT HE SHOULD GO BACK TO HER BECAUSE THEY ARE PERFECT FOR EACH OTHER. NEITHER ONE WOULD EVER CALL EACH OTHER ON THERE DENIAL AND LIFE WOULD BE GRAND. HE SAYS HE DOESNT WANT TO BE THAT PERSON. YET HE STILL LIES TO HIMSELF AND TRIES NOT TO SEE HIMSELF FOR WHO HE REALLY IS. I WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND.
Just because your husband is weak shouldn't be an excuse for him. I was weak and yes that's why I cheated but I was also selfish and could not see past my own needs and wants. Your husband is more than weak if he chooses to be with another woman. The faster you see that then the better off you will be. We are all weak in life and we all make mistakes, that's still no excuse for cheating while we are married.
Some people are just bad to the core and there is nothing you can do to change them. He has changed and it seems he is happy with who he is. I dont know how his thought processes work, i really dont. The only good thing is that he may be phoning me and in his way now 'cheating with me on her" but I am not one who is going to be encouraging him by jumping in his bed, as I can see him for exactly who he is.