I really tried to like Jesse James but i always considered him very pretentious and a dick. Now he has hurt one of my favorite actresses. Sandra seems so real and down to earth for a hollywood person and for Jesse to do this to her is bullshit! I think James likes his women on the trashy side and Sandra does not seem that way. He was married to a porn star and such. This is what happens when women go for the "bad boy". They get exactly that!

I wish her well

The following is just my opinion:

1.) Sandra will be fine.

2.) Jesse James was sort of always a scumbag.

3.) See item 1.

I feel for Sandra but I hope this will calm those individuals and 'experts' who blame the betrayed spouse for affairs. Here SB is by absolutely ALL accounts a tremendous and beautiful person - but that is still not good enough for her H.

What ever Jesse James' problems are - they are his. He cheated and it is NOT her fault. She publicly gushed over him so it's not like she ignored him. She went away for a little while for work - isn't she entitled to think that her H would be faithful?

I'll say it again....it's not like Jesse James morphed into a scumbag overnight.

He kind of always was a scumbag.

Just sayin'.

Yeah, all...this one really hurt when I read it and keep hearing about it now. To have to go thru this publicly has got to suck so bad.

Hell, everyone loves Sandra Bullock. This clown will be forever walking around stigmatized...

..and he deserves it.

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dab- you are so right on this...

It's funny, we may not know these people, in person, or for one iota, yet....

We all think the world of SandraB, and feel that we know her, so it makes it almost so personal to us!

When I had seen Jessie on the apprentice, I thought pretty well of him, thinking that since he refused to use his wife's fame and money, for fundraising events to win the apprentice.....I thought good job. But apparently,he is an entrepreneur and has a few bucks of his own. But he kept that secret. I always wondered how that relationship would go. He seems to be a blue collar worker all the way, bikes, biker chicks, bars (all though he quit some years ago, and made a huge big deal when Dennis Rodman drank too much).

Now in retrospect, it seems like he's judgmental, and yet, he does his own little dirty things behind his own wifes back! Could the OW have any more tattoos? omg, lol

Sometimes I think people give others far too much credit, and then it comes back to bite them in the arse. It is a shame, cuz she really appeared to fawn over him, love him, and just want some honest love in return!

Sandra, unfortunately, has just joined the ranks of many strong, gorgeous and famous women who have been cheated on. My heart goes out to her as well and I cannot imagine how hard this is for her when she is also in the public eye with all focus on her. We all know the roller coaster from hell this puts you on and to have cameras rolling and snapping pics of you while you are trying to deal with it is just heartbreaking to me.
The only light in this is that it is a further very public education to all that betrayed did NOTHING to "deserve" this. It is all about what the cheater lacks and not what the betrayed lacks.
I would suggest in this case that Jesse has serious self esteem issues and feels "less than" when he looks at his wife Sandra. These type of people need another "less than" person to boost their fragile egos. The woman is never more beautiful, especially on the inside (where it matters) they are just cheap and skanky. They can be tattooed or be dressed in an expensive business suit, it doesn't matter, a skank is a skank simply by the way they behave and the lines that they cross. They are poor excuses for women let alone human beings.
I hurt for Sandra and I am so sad she is dealing with this. I pray for her strength and hope perhaps she may stumble upon this site annoymously so she can get the support and guidance from others who are walking or have walked in her shoes. She needs this support because money isn't what is going to get her through this.
Sandra, I wish you well. I pray for your strength and I understand your pain. Everyone is in your corner. Be the strong beautiful woman you are. You didn't deserve this and I think you know that. You didn't do anything to make it happen either. (((HUGS))) to you and to all of us who are walking this path together.

Me and my husband were watching tv the other night and I was sitting there thinking how awful it was and how I felt so sorry for her to have to have everything in the press. I was remebering how I felt when I found out about my H affair and how it destroyed me for such a long time.

My husband has the nerve to look at me and start saying how he can't believe how stupid he was. He went on about how great she is and how could any man cheat on her blah blah blah! I almost got up and kicked him in the balls. Not sure what that says about me. Does he think that I am just okay so it was okay to cheat on me?

It ended up being a huge trigger for me. So my heart does go out to Sandra who has always been one of my favorite famous people but I hope my H keeps his comments to himself!

Not a great deal of sympathy here.

Her husband was fucking a porn star before her.....what was she thinking.

Blindside, I hear that argument all the time. Like all of us, she was thinking that he had grown up. That that kind of lifestyle was over and that she had made a difference in him that he would carry beyond the alter. Guess the children involved really helped that situation. It is more than ironic, too, that the tattooed Nazi affair was going on while she was filming, "The Blind Side.'' That's exactly how it happens. We get blind-sided because we believe the story about how they want to settle down and love only us. We're all Sandra Bullock here. We may not have her money or fame, but we're one with her emotional state. And we should only give her our support. I mean, couldn't we all have simply paid attention to some red flag in the beginning of our relationships and simply ended it? It's called being human. Wanting love. Trusting. All that stuff that seems to be going out the window these days.

Blind, really....??

that didn't last long either....

way to blame the victim

Unless Sandra had been the OW when he was with the porn star (which by all accounts, she was not) she deserves none of the blame for this. Crazy blind- you seem to be turning into a bit of a misogynist.

Neither of us know these people or what the circumstances of their marriage are. I do think that as human beings, we owe them the respect and decency to not click on any tabloid reports about their marriage and afford them the space and privacy that we all need when our marriages are in crisis.

i think it is unfortunate if we have to believe that no one can ever change...there are many of us that did dumb things when we were young and have changed.....and that makes it easy for us to believe that others have changed as well......i also felt my h was over his younger wild days....alas I can now say I have something in common with Sandy and Christie and Elin......too bad it is not there money...then i could leave my h like i wish i could.........

i feel bad she is in the public eye...but maybe she will make some good out of the bad...she is string enough...mayhap she is the one who will not cower in the shadows enbarrassed or stand by her man but will come out for the spouses of sex and porn addicts, and just plain players....this has to stop...

somebody has to remove the veil from all of our eyes and expose how common this is...just go on a website and look how many of your own neighbors are out there cruising for sex married or not...look at all the porn on hbo and the internet ...and all the strip clubs on the conrer...and someone tell all the women out there it isn't just stars with money doing this...it is lot sof our h's when they are out of town...it is the in thing toget an escort in your hotel....and rate her on redbook....it is glamourized by shows on cnbc trying to remove the stigma on porn so the porn stars don't have to be ashamed or embarrassed about what they do!? Really, .

somebody has to get beyond their own life and tell the story under all the dirty details we hear...i think Sandy is the one with guts enough to do just that...to do what she can to help those who are being blindsided and dont know it yet and those who are doing the blindsiding to or considering getting married and doing it...the answer is just say no...no to cheating if you are married and no to marriage if you can't manage that...

it is not cool, it is not men exercising their manhoods or normal, not all guys do it...and it is not the spouses fault...it is the cheaters fault for not getting help or marriage counseling or having the guts to divorce if they are so unhappy before they cheat......people need to grow up and realize marriage is not just a game or just stop getting married...marriage has been so cheapened today people just think they can survive infidelity.....i think they shuld start allowing spouses to sue cheaters for emotional duress and damages...

we can sue anyone else who hurts us except our spouse.....in cases like this i think it is warranted where there seems to be a serious effort to defraud someone into believing they had a real marriage when in actuality they had no intention of ever being faithful....i think that might make people think twice about luring people into marriages...they would just stick to the one night stand and no phone call...which is preferable to wasting yrs with someone.

and then again maybe it will take more clearly unstable women to expose the cheaters for their own benefit for being used....jesse and tiger can be thankful for one thing...they didn't cheat with steve mcnairs girl who put a gun to his head...notice how that one got dropped from the media rather quickly? the problem was solved...no more scandal to cover and drag the pain and misery out.....maybe it will take a few more gunshots to the head for people to get the message...i for one hope not...i hope people can wake up and see what is going on around us...and change.