I think some people have a very loose interpretation of "offensive."

I think there's a difference between posting an honest reaction or giving SOLICITED advice that is not supportive of someone's point of view

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Posting rude and inflammatory remarks intended to hurt someone.

I think Summer didn't like the fact that we took issue with some of her choices. That's our right.

But nobody should be cursed at or anything like that.

But just because I post an opinion that may be "negative," that doesn't mean I'm being "mean."

FJ, I thought you as opinionated, but never abusive.

Thanks, Deli. I can live with opinionated ;)

Yes I was referencing the post by SummerBluebell. Although I did question momentarily the thought of a pot stirring post I dismissed that almost as fast as I had the thought. If it was removed by admins it would be nice to just see it closed for comments and remain for a few days or remove questionable replies with a note from admins stating "removed due to violation" or something to the like. Many other forums already do this.

Jay, I to am discouraged. I also agree with not giving up. Then again isn't that we are all here. Because we are not ready to give up when bad times come upon us? I feel everyone here no matter BS,CS,OW,OM etc join looking for the strength needed to make them better people. Everyone may have a slightly different view of what better is but that is why we are individuals.

FJ = Opinionated agreed. I appreciate the passion.

why is it only censorship when it is against you fiber? Yes some of what I and other betrayed spouses IS harsh, we are DEVASTATED, and you are not as healed as you always claim. Why is your "authority" and your responses the only ones that should be the "bomb" and any that offend you should be removed? there should not be any censorship, they are only words that can be IGNORED no one is forced to read any of this, and why is it ok if someone says something that triggers a betrayed spouse, we are just suppose to take it, but the cheaters can't take our responses? My life sucks because of what SOMEONE I LOVED betrayed me and our commitment, I did not chose this life I now live, and lots of times you make it even worse because you seem to feel it is your job to control everyones opinions and reactions to their pain
and yeah supposedly we are not suppose to use this to address anyone individually but I have seen this "group" bash people who have chosen to get off because they couldn't take the abuse from you and some others, so how do we address that? are we just suppose to leave? I just don't get what this forum is really suppose to be providing. Maybe you have an opinion on that too. and I will say this in caps to emphasize how I feel right now SORRY FOR COMMENTING ON THIS TREAD WHEN NOT INVITED, I AM NOT TRYING TO "HIJACK" IT, I JUST WANT SOME ANSWERS thank you

Shegavehimareason, this site has clear guidelines regarding abuse. If the rules are broken a post is removed. If no rules are broken and a post is removed anyway, then it's censorship.

jayalexanders thread, asking people to write to.DS and ask for agencies of the decision to close my account, violated none of the rules. Not one. It's removal was censorship. I don't think it could be any clearer than in this case. She didn't swear, she didn't call anyone names or put anyone down, she didn't tell anyone they we're an abomination stuck in the clutches of Satan. She stated her opinion that a mistake had been made and asked for backup in having it corrected. No violations that I or anyone could see.

If the rule is no green T-shirts, all green T-shirts will be confiscated and burned, then someone should check the color of the T-shirt before setting it on fire. Otherwise, turnpike is meaningless.

This is not about me. This is about all of us making emotional investments in this community and each other, and all of that being at risk. It appears that posts are being removed without consideration for the rules, we are never informed of which timesheets broken and there is no process for review. Removal is arbitrary and subjective, so that anyone can be wiped out for no apparent reason.

I would hope this would be unacceptable to everyone as it clearly has the potential to affect all of you.

This is much bigger than me.

I agree with you, Fiber.

There is an emotional investment here. What is this site for? To come to and get support, direction, and honest advice. That advice is not always what we want to hear. Sometimes, it's what we need to hear.

I am not all down with censorship, but have seen posts closed or removed because they simply got way too far out of hand. It happens. We are dealing with a hot topic issue, after all.

I don't think Fiber should have been booted.

My 2 cents...L~