This is a long story but will cut as best I can. Husband 2 1/2 yr affair with work colleague (she was separated from H at time, but now back together thats when the affair finished Feb 09, she finished it). Found out that he had contact with her again Nov 09. Initially threw him out, he wanted to stay with me. After a while gave it another try, went counselling together, lots of positives in the marriage: 3 grt kids, 25 yrs together, I lov e him, he is a good, kind, generous, funny, gentle man, we get on really well, sex life good etc etc, Everything seemed to be going well & for the most part was recovering well. I was still having problems with trusting him and was somewhere near to forgiving. Last week my sixth sense kicked in and knew he was lying to me so I had him followed, he was with her, in a bar in full view of everyone, kissing, nuzzling, holding hands, carresssing, laughing...my heart stopped beating...I am destroyed all over again. He is telling me that he met her to make sure that everything is ok and that she doesn't want to start anything up again, she has mental health issues and has had a recent breakdown, he told her that he loves me and that we are making our marriage work. He is concerned as she has been ill. I am humiliated and soooo angry for letting him deceive me again. He is begging for me not to throw him out, he loves me deeply?? When he met her again in Nov 09 that was his excuse then, checking she was ok and nothing starting up again??. One other thing in Oct 09 I caught him snogging my then best friend, they were both drunk and he said he had know idea what he was doing?? Why is he fuzzing my brain trying to convince me that the evidence I have is not really how it was OMG. I have told his parents (destroyed) can't deal with this without some support, kept it quiet last time. He doesn't like the fact I am know telling people, esp family. Tough!!. I would just like your thoughts and opinions and maybe some advice please.