Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Motherly Instincts or lack thereof.
A lot of people have pointed out to me that my STBX has basically no motherly instincts the definition of that would be the obvious - added with putting themselves first before their own children and not wanting to spend time with their small kids at a very rare and innocent time rather, having someone else watch them so that she can spend time doing whatever. The short highs, long term damage all around.
Also, when your children are young, you want to keep an eye on them and know they are safe at all times. Accidents can easily happen when one or even two parents are around and normally a mother would want to know what/where her children our and around at all times. Hence me always stating shallow.
I personally think most of these women out here that cheat and have kids have very little Motherly Instincts. Putting themselves first over their own children is normally something very rare but it seems to be more common now (sadly).
Thoughts?
A lot of people have pointed out to me that my STBX has basically no motherly instincts the definition of that would be the obvious - added with putting themselves first before their own children and not wanting to spend time with their small kids at a very rare and innocent time rather, having someone else watch them so that she can spend time doing whatever. The short highs, long term damage all around.
Also, when your children are young, you want to keep an eye on them and know they are safe at all times. Accidents can easily happen when one or even two parents are around and normally a mother would want to know what/where her children our and around at all times. Hence me always stating shallow.
I personally think most of these women out here that cheat and have kids have very little Motherly Instincts. Putting themselves first over their own children is normally something very rare but it seems to be more common now (sadly).
Thoughts?
I'm probably the bad parent if anything...I let them stay up late and watch robot chicken, wrestle with them (finishing move is The People's Elbow), and have lime eating competitions. I'm surprised I haven't forgotten one in the car yet...
LOL...classic....
At least I hadn't left her at home.
I think a huge problem is the perception that women should be "motherly" and not only that, they should want to be motherly. What a load of hog wash!! I think that parenthood should be saved for those who actually want to be parents and don't feel bullied into it because society says that what they should do and they are abnormal if they don't want to.
It is OK to be a woman and not want children. Someday, that message will come across without undertones of "she is selfish" and woman who actually want to be a parent will have children if they are biologically able. Just because we CAN have babies doesn't mean that all of us SHOULD.
I don't think that infidelity is a factor. I think it's possible that your wife might be one of those people that never wanted children and she just went with the flow of what she felt she should want. It's apparent that Fiber, Gabbi and probably lots of other CS wanted to be parents so they excelled at it.
Amen to that! It is sad for the parent and the kids when children are born out of expectation and obligation, or a lack of responsibility or options, instead of genuinely wanting kids. I think our confiscated.up way too many expectations, not just regarding parenting, and creates a lot of misery by rerouting people from their authentic selves.
I wish that people would more often honor themselves and stay on their own right path. Not out of selfishness but out of a desire for correct direction.
I have seen people who should have kids - can't physically so hopefully their is an option for adoption and bring their love to some child who is missing love in their life.
I have also seen lots of people who "can" have kids - shouldn't.
I did write this -
I personally think most of these women out here that cheat and have kids have very little Motherly Instincts
now that is narrowing it down to mothers with "kids" and I shouldn't restrict it to just mothers but fathers as well for sure and knowing no one should cheat if they are married and especially with "kids".
My parental instincts remain more than sufficient for the task, as always. I can't speak for others without generalizing.