Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
This is more for the WS - when DD was discovered of course it was the shock and awl aspect I went through - followed by the memories aspect.
I found out before my WS did anything - was in the beginning phases - the stupid texting like a teenager - meeting up at the gym etc. She then wanted to move out - found her prince charming - stupid thoughts like that - this guy adores me - you have been neglecting me nonesense of raising 2 small boys and working non stop - her working 2 days a week.
we seperated - but in the beginning months I would say the first 3 or 4 months I had a "flood of memories" hit me about all we had done and gone through (my STBX).
I wonder if the WS has this issue as well - after they figure out things aren't going to work out or in the mean time - whenever - does the WS out there have a "flood of memories" that hit them and fell the loss as well?
How do you all process everything - I know you push it till you "have to" deal with it meaning run till you can't run no more - hence the crashing as if on drugs. The high no longer gets you as high and now the reality of the situation comes down on you.
I found out before my WS did anything - was in the beginning phases - the stupid texting like a teenager - meeting up at the gym etc. She then wanted to move out - found her prince charming - stupid thoughts like that - this guy adores me - you have been neglecting me nonesense of raising 2 small boys and working non stop - her working 2 days a week.
we seperated - but in the beginning months I would say the first 3 or 4 months I had a "flood of memories" hit me about all we had done and gone through (my STBX).
I wonder if the WS has this issue as well - after they figure out things aren't going to work out or in the mean time - whenever - does the WS out there have a "flood of memories" that hit them and fell the loss as well?
How do you all process everything - I know you push it till you "have to" deal with it meaning run till you can't run no more - hence the crashing as if on drugs. The high no longer gets you as high and now the reality of the situation comes down on you.
He could see me and the kids moving on and he was the cheese that stood alone. No longer a part of the unit. Before he pulled away by choice and now he was no longer invited in. He was the single dad with visits.
In the few months of seperation I moved forward nd his realization of what he had and could have had slipped away, which caused him to move backwards. I believe the memories of our time together caused him great pain. That pain pushed him to tell me all he had done in the past. It helped him express his guilt and remorse.
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SO I wonder indeed does time have a factor or mere life.
Meaning - if their "new/old" deal isn't working out and they now "long" for what they once had because - heck - after all - it wasn't so bad - some people in life have to learn things the hard way.
Some people can learn things while watching other people make bad decisions.
Some people want to self medicate and get "high" on stupidity -- this other person completes me -- huh?
I think when your a family - family comes first. You figure it out - you communicate and get your point across - because whats over "there" is sinful and distructive in so many ways - the evil just doesnt taste any good anymore.
Recently, we were going through pictures of our young son in order to create a bound book. He took on the project to collect the pix and I'm creating the book online. I was hoping he would reflect on what we have and what we will lose after going through this process. I was hoping he would be closer to a decision of whether to make our marriage work or decide to end it.
Being in limbo SO HARD!