Ok so my wife and I are each going to see our individual shrinks and they seem to be helping me. My wifes shrink thinks that she shouldnt focus to much on fixing the marriage as it probably wont work anyhow. She went as far as to tell her to start putting money away in case I left. My wife has requested that we go to counciling and he shrink has sposidly told her that she thinks it would be to difficult for my wife at this point to have to be faced with what she has done. Does this sound correct to anyone, it sure seems fishy to me. Now my wife has some issues taht she is working on that are pritty sevear but damn. She doesnt think she is strong enough to deal with what my wife has done having to be responsible for it but thinks that she is stong enough to deal with me leaving. Sposidly she told my wife that she cant stop her from getting couple therapy but that she wouldnt let it be at her office. Things are going very good between my wife and I but we have this elephant in the room that we cant get rid of on our own. Like I told my wife it will suck if we get the marriage we always wanted and split because there is no trust . Who knows I know I am getting tired of just sitting around waiting to fix this.