Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
My husband had an affair 3 1/2 yrs ago that resulted in a pregnancy. It's been such a difficult journey trying to repair our marriage and family. Today I found proof that they are still seeing each other. I calmly through him out of the house with only the clothes on his back. Why are men such assholes? I'm so angry at myself for wasting the last 3 1/2 yrs on him and believing his lies that he loved me and was working on us. All the while he never really walked away from the OW. I hope they both rot in hell! I dont look forward to what lies ahead. Help.
Thanks for the input on what you suspected and found out. LIke Blondie said, I think a lot of us are worried about this happening. So thank you!
Hang in there and you are a strong woman! You stuck to your guns about checking on him when you suspected it again. You didn't stick your head in the sand in denial (which I've done). You stood up for yourself! So I know you can be strong and not let him back in. You sound DONE with him and I'm glad cuz you deserve happiness.
But tonight I came home late. It was 9pm and when I came home I expected him to be parked there and he wasnt. My gut told me he was at the tramps house. So I drove overthere. What do I see? He's pulling out of her driveway as I'm coming down the street. Oh my God. He almost had me going there for a minute. He's camped out on my driveway calling me every few minutes. Damm lying jerk. He knows just how to take advantage of me and I just keep letting him. But I'm glad I saw that tonight. It reinforces my decision.
Ladies, beware of those manipulative men that try to take advantage of your kind, forgiving heart and have you second guess yourself. It's easier for them to take that path back to your home then it is for them to admit they were wrong and actually stop seeing the other person! I need a beer.
And I love how he's working it... "poor me, I am going to sleep in your driveway so you can see I'm suffering! Can't you see I want to be close to you??" UGH! Manipulative bastard!
I'm glad you saw what you did! Yes, it reinforces your decision! He's a jerk and you deserve better. I hope you got your beer girl... have 3 in fact! ;)
How dare he try to prove things are resolved, and he wants you, and is trying his fricken best to convince you of that. Okay, so you get over it, eventually, after huge, huge, devastation, trust issues, loss of self-esteem, second-guessing yourself, your marriage, your reality, on and on ad nausem.....
And then even after the driveway shit, trying to convince you again, that he is so sad, and he will do anything to get you back.
BS, it's more like he will try anything to fool you, that he wants you back.
So in essence, nothing changed, except he became more adept at being a liar, a cheater, a weak weak excuse of a husband, man, or human being! How dare he think that you would buy his shit! I'm so glad you followed your instincts, and caught him in the act again!
I am so sorry for you, and your situation. It could easily be any one of us, who believed that a-hole H again! This is what's so dang scary! They just know how to pull our love and heart=strings, but on the negative side, they know how to be a crafty sneaky, unscrupulous fox!
So now what are you gonna do?
Kick him to the curb for me too!
L~
You know what you have to do and that is to file. He isn't just using the OW. He is using YOU. As long as he thinks he can, he will.