Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I cheated on my boyfriend for the start of our relationship. Around this time last year I met a guy that I really liked. He broke it off when my brother committed suicide. After a couple of weeks I reached out to my now boyfriend and asked if he wanted to grab dinner and that was the beginning of us. We talked for a month or two then once day I asked him if he wanted to date. He said he did but needed some time to think about it. A few weeks later, on Nov. 30 while we were walking along the beach we asked me out. I gladly said yes! Then a couple days later the guy I was talking to before my brother passes away texted me. That's where it all began. I still had feeing for him and lied when he asked if I was dating someone even though I was in a two day old relationship. We went back to our old ways of texting, FaceTiming and calling to then hanging out on the weekends, going to bars and staying in hotels. We would hangout/talk for a week or two then we would not communicate for three or four weeks. We did get to the point that we told each other we loved each other. The love for this guy is nothing like the love I have for my boyfriend. I know that I would not put forth the efforts that I'm am now with trying to save/fix my relationship with my boyfriend in the relationship with the guy I cheated with. When the guy called me to end things he said so many negative things about me but I didn't care because I didn't want to be with him. If he was to contact me and say he was sorry and asked me to be with him, I would turn him down in a heartbeat.
I truly do love my boyfriend and have never had feelings for someone like this before. I've dated guys and have seen them as a way to check off life goals like marriage. But with my boyfriend I don't care if we get married. All I want to do is spend the rest of my life with him. I know I have lied to my boyfriend and he doesn't trust me but I will never cheat again.
Is there any advice that can be given to help us recover from this. Thank you!
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I'm horrified! I knew my insurance would go up due to getting a new car but I didn't expect it to go up over $2,000. I did have an accident with the snow/ice in the winter. I was just telling my brother that I have had my car since March 2, 2026 and have only spent $75 on an oil change. Now this! I called another insurance company and their quote was over $4,000. I guess I have to pay...
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And, did you have sex with the other guy? You didn't mention if you did or not.
If you didn't, then I really don't think that you even cheated. You were just starting dating your now-boyfriend... you had no way of knowing it would last or how serious it would be, and now it's one year... great! :)
Forgive yourself and vow to yourself that you will be a great girlfriend.
And no, don't talk to that other guy any more. He left you after your brother died? Block him, forget about him... move on with your now-boyfriend.
When you have issues with your current relationship never turn to another man.
Don't do anything to hurt your own morals or honesty. Keep your relationship open and honest, so much easier to be open and honest then to deal with the lies and hurt. Lies will destroy your relationship.
Find yourself some good high moral married women to help you, women you respect. When you have issues tell them how you feel as well as your man.
Always tell your man your feelings, never hide your hurt, pain or weakness from him. You should also keep a journal.
You can weather this and grow stronger from it.
When you are feeling insecure and low self-esteem, tell him, listen to his praise and encouragement, that is how he sees you so accept that and welcome it.
You are taking the right steps to know there is a problem and its great you are taking actions to fix it.
My boyfriend and I are still together. We are working on things. This weekend I was invited to spend time with his family and son which resulted in us staying the night at his parents. I’ve confronted about him about how he feels about me and he said he still has feeling for me but it hasn’t been that long since he found out the truth. I do the same thing that i was doing before like make him breakfast and lunch and write him notes which is what he wants but I’m having a hard time not being able to kiss him, be near him or sleep with him. Can anyone give me recommendations on what to do when I am feeling insecure about us.