You are not supposed to work on a marriage when your husband has sex with his 1st cousin, take away from the fact that he cheated, he has sexual intercourse with a family member, incest is disgusting and completely wrong. Then you take into account he cheated...it makes me want to puke.

The feelings that you have about him will always be there but you need to move on and find someone is is willing to keep his hands of his own family. You are probably more scared to be alone then not to be with him, but those fears will be alleviated in time, just be strong to yourself, and have some self respect.

We are here for you and hope only the best for you in your time of need.

Cheatedon,
Wow thanks for that. Your right I have no desire to be with a man who did that. And your right my feelings for him did not just shut off. I am afraid of being alone. I have already moved out so at least I have my own stuff and that is a step.

You're married to this man and regardless of who he cheated with you need to decide what to do from here. Why would anyone be so desperate that they would have to have sex with a relative? ick. That's just disgusting in and of itself. But you have to do what you have to do. If I were you I would leave him but only you know your whole situation. We don't know everything about your life and relationship with this man. Good luck.

Fixation,
HEy thanks for that. I know moraly I will never ever forgive him. What he did is just not right. I am not going to work things out with him we will just parient our daughter and make sure she is happy.

theres no way id allow my husband to communicate with a woman he slept with while he was with me.
its gross, he needs to stay away from her or you need to stay away from him

NOOOOO, do not stay with him for the mere fact that this is not another just another woman but a relative which he is see for the rest of his or her life. You will not be able to compete with this kind of attention. I know because I too am living this life. My husband's second cousin came to live with us because she could not find a job and thought that the prospects would be better in our town therefore she moved in with us. From the first day that she moved in until the day that she left she completely disrespected me and my husband would defend her. She hardly ever spoke to me but talked my husband's ear off when he was around. I was very uncomfortable how she behaved around my husband. For instance, my husband would be in his office at night and I would be upstairs asleep but would wake up because I was uncomfortable with her and go downstairs to find the office door closed and the two of them in the office. When I questioned it he said they were just watching t.v. Another ocassion she was talking to my husband with see through pajamas on and I told her that she was inappropriately dressed and needed to cover herself up. Well, I suspicions really got to me when he told me that he would support her until it was the last breathe that he took. Later, I broke into his phone and found emails about him meeting her at a hotel and how she sexually performed for him. I felt somewhat vindicated knowing that I was not insecure and going crazy, but my mind led me right. What disgusted me even more is that it was not just that one, but another cousin too. And call girl and a girl from his job! A total of 5 women that he was involved with over a year's time. I even tried to rationalize that if he stayed away from his cousins that we could make it but common sense kicked in and I realized there is no way that I wanted to or could compete with seeing these people that are a part of my family too! I couldn't ask or expect him to never see them or their family again and would not believe him if he told me that he would not. This alone wasn't the cause for me seeking divorce (prior affairs, mentally , emotionally and verbally abusive) it just reaffirm what kind of person that I always knew but denied who he was. So please do not be manipulated and humiliated by this man, you and I deserve more! Much love and I am here whenever you want to exchange dirt. P.S. would I be wrong to share the emails with fellow family members. I know that it won't heal the pain but will show them what kind of people they are.

MMM kissing cousins, I would be afraid that the baby would have something wrong with it.... Mixed blood with blood and crap happens... I wouldn't take him back, but thats me...

I did NOT take him back at all..the baby that they have will be 5 in October and he seems to be fine.. Just a bit angry lol.. as far as the cousin she has some how disapeared from the face of the earth and my ex husband has their son and he is re-married NOT to his cousin lol..things are better.. I am scared for life so I choose to just be a happy single mom!!

This thread is five years old....just sayin

HI it's like every user that commented on this topic is niw deleted user

I have been married for 30 years my wife left on March 3rd 2018 because of her love and sexual infidelity with her male first cousin.
I have not one human to talk to about it at the moment our children are devastated they are in their teens. Hey Daily Strength can you help?