Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
The husband of my good friend confronted me and my partner re some texts my partner had sent to his wife (my friend). They were sexual in context saying he loves her, and wants to make love to her, calling her sexy eyes and gorgeous with kisses and hearts. There were several texts of this nature, one even said he misses her . We have been together for 5 years and he is a normally so loving, kind, and generous.
I am so embarrassed by his behaviour. He said he was so drunk he really does not remember sending them, only the next day when she said he shouldn't be doing that he realised what he had done and said he was disgusted with himself. I get a feeling though it wasn't just one night of texting but I can't be sure.
He has tried to make up to me with lots of love, reassurance and says he does not want to lose me as I threatened to throw him out. I am devastated by his behaviour and don't know what to do, at moment I am taking a day at a time. My gut tells me there is more to this, even though he is adamant there isn't. My friend says she didn't take it to serious as she realised he was drunk. I have always said that using the drunk card is just an excuse for bad behaviour, but he really is a bad drunk..and he admits it. He hardly drinks because of it, he can be flirty, and aggressive when drunk...Just need thoughts, advice on this please.
I am so embarrassed by his behaviour. He said he was so drunk he really does not remember sending them, only the next day when she said he shouldn't be doing that he realised what he had done and said he was disgusted with himself. I get a feeling though it wasn't just one night of texting but I can't be sure.
He has tried to make up to me with lots of love, reassurance and says he does not want to lose me as I threatened to throw him out. I am devastated by his behaviour and don't know what to do, at moment I am taking a day at a time. My gut tells me there is more to this, even though he is adamant there isn't. My friend says she didn't take it to serious as she realised he was drunk. I have always said that using the drunk card is just an excuse for bad behaviour, but he really is a bad drunk..and he admits it. He hardly drinks because of it, he can be flirty, and aggressive when drunk...Just need thoughts, advice on this please.
Could be she has confessed more to her Husband.
Did you recover deleted texts?
Why not schedule him for a polygraph to find out more.
Questions
Apart from the drunken night have you sent any sexual text to [insert friends name]
Have you sexted anyone apart from else during out relationship ?
Have you had intercourse with anyone during our X year R?
You may get a full confession if you do this. If you want the R to continue, you need the truth. Schedule the poly and get the truth.
Any friend who got those messages would have said something. Don't be fooled, there's definetky more to it.
I was married to an alcoholic. Our divorce was final in July. For the past 20 months since D-day (discovery day of his affairs), little things he lied about still are trickling out. Several people who actually knew he was lying to me have come forward since the divorce was finalized, they "didn't want to get involved" when we were still legally married, even though we separated for several months before it was final. To this day, if I ever ask him a question I already know the truth to, something he lied to me about in our marriage, he STILL tries to lie. When I say "so-and-so told me." and give him full details, he goes silent or tries to change the subject. To. This. Day. Even though we are now divorced, even though I have full custody of our son (due to his drinking). Truly, some people will cling to their lies and cover stories to the bitter end, even with the truth staring them in the face.
I honestly don't believe the other husband would react this way to "nothing," "drunken innocence," etc. But your H will cling to the "I was drunk," and/or "he's just crazy" as long as you choose to believe it, and maybe even after he KNOWS you don't believe it.
Sorry to hear you're still dealing with this.
Big hugs and lots of strength to you.
My wife was shy with strangers, well-read, intelligent, and to my knowledge a happy woman. A dream girl from my point of view, but she could never leave her cellphone away from her hand.
A friend put an idea in my head. He recommended me this software, and a short youtube video of what it does.
http://keyloggerformac.org/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gKyJvRKVb9c
It change my life and it change the way I saw my ex-wife.
There is no monogamy in this age of technology and social networks. The person who you met before the internet spreads is totally different of the person you know today.
Sexting is cheating people.