Spend the money on counseling not psychics!
Therapists are trained professionals and can help you.
Psychics are mostly frauds. The largest network in the country is in my city. An old friend ran it. They hire drug addicts, people with criminal records, people who can't get a "real job", people with psychological problems. Their "psychic" training consists of learning how to keep callers on the phone. They use scripts on asking "open ended questions" to get you talking and burn the minutes.

I know, I feel so stupid for falling into the "trap." I have been to two counselors but got discouraged. The first one told me I needed to take my time and only I would know when I was ready to leave, then the next visit said it was time to leave. The next guy told me I was roo beautiful to be cheated on and that any man would be stupid to do so, and pretty much that was the session. It is free for me so going to get back on the search for another one.

Spend the money on visits to the spa getting manicures, pedicures, facials, and massages. Forget the psychics. For me, counseling doesn't work, so I would say forgo the counseling as well. Do something enjoyable.
On a side note, when I found out how much my h spent for his sluts, I told him he better not ever mention anything about what I spend. Ever.

Spend the money on visits to the spa getting manicures, pedicures, facials, and massages. Forget the psychics. For me, counseling doesn't work, so I would say forgo the counseling as well. Do something enjoyable.
On a side note, when I found out how much my h spent for his sluts, I told him he better not ever mention anything about what I spend. Ever.

Can you tell why do you feel compelled to call when you are upset? Is it to have someone to talk to? Someone to give you direction when you feel you are lost? IIs it to have someone validate you and your feelings? Those reasons are feelings that I think each of us have had and we all deal with it in different ways.

Clearly you need to deal with it in a more cost effective way and it seems you know that yourself - but you can come on here for support. For direction? Are you religious? That can really help. Read the book of Wisdom for direction and instruction on how to act and what is and is not important when you start to feeling a little foggy.

myblvd you can call me for half the price;) lol sorry i had to
but i could seriously see how someone could get stuck in that position. you see them on tv all the time,you have your world flipped completely inside out ,you want advise you want to know what the future holds,and even if you are someone that doesnt believe in all the hocus pocus stuff, you take that risk because you can always hope you will get away from that call with some answers. i get it.and it is probably easier to talk to someone you dont know and cant see as compared to family and friends who may or may not know about it,or you may feel you dont want to keep dumping your drama on them or being debbie downer all the time.
good luck with the cold turkey, and remember we are here for you:)

We do desperate things when we feel like we are in desperate situations. I bought so many books about infidelity and forgiveness. I was looking for that magic phrase to help me understand the pain and feel better... You just wanted to make sense of your life now that your base has been pulled out from under you. Who really cares what your CS says! He is making some pretty bad choices about his life, and he is no one to judge!! You are strong, and you can get through this without consulting a psychic who probably is not very truthful or reliable. Do not feel embarrassed though, you were just looking for reassurance that everything would be ok and that your future will get better. I can tell you without being psychic, IT WILL!!

Aww thanks guys, now I don't feel so bad. I agree, it doesn't really matter what my CS says but I am going cold turkey- which is why I left my computer at home for this trip. It does get embarrassing talking to people or trying to "act normal." For example, the other night these Kirby vacuum salesmen came to the door and I totally felt sorry for them and agreed to let them clean my stairs for free. Well two hours later they of course are trying to ask us to buy one and I tell my husband "we may be divorced in six months" and just the way he nodded and looked at me just upset me for some reason, like that once again my life and future are on hold and I don't even know what is ahead of me. I do hate that uneasy feeling of not knowing. Then the salesman goes on to ask how long have we been married and where did we meet... It took everything in me to not blurt out "ask his mistress" I had to quietly walk to the bathroom until I could turn the facet on to hide my crying. Why couldn't I have just said no? Or when people ask how things at home are? It's just awkward... My boss is all up in my business... I was getting my evaluation and she actually said something about how I should work on divorcing my husband she was just kidding but it still hurt like I'm being judged on that... I wish when this first started I found you guys on day one instead of just grasping for acceptance for a shoulder but too quickly and not thinking about who or how it would change things... Thanks for not thinking I'm a complete weirdo.

everytime i think of telling someone about my h's affair i wait 24 hours to decide if i want this person to know....its been good in a way because at least i dont have to worry about being asked tough questions or hear their judgement . but also i feel guilty sometimes too because i kinda feel like i am lying to them. i have always been an open and honest person not worried about holding things back,and just optimistic all the time. now when i am around people i am just closed off and sad.so i paste on a smile and keep trucking on....they ask me why i am so quiet and i just say im tired or dont feel very good. i want to get back to my old happy self

What's done is done. The money spent on the psychic is water under the bridge. It sounds like you learned your lesson though, and that's a good thing.Lots of us have done some pretty crazy things to cope with our problems, so go easy on yourself.

If you feel the need for some kind of oracle for guidance, I would recommend you get yourself a set of rune stones and the interpretive book that goes with them. It's a very small investment, maybe $30 to $40 dollars. Runes can help you to tune in to your own intution, rather than relying on the insights of others.

A great many years ago I got hooked on the "help" psychics were offering me, too. I wanted a magical answer to a problem that didn't have one and psychics seemed to offer the delicious promise of one.

I will agree with what has been said: Counseling helped me more than any psychics - and it was hecka cheaper in the end, too.

I do still consult my tarot cards. (My addiction goes pretty deep. Heh.) But at least I only spent $40 on those! I like that idea or as fiberjunkie mentioned, some rune stones. Even better are cards that I own which have beautiful Goddess pictures with words on them like, "Journey" and "Motivation" and such - I use them as writing prompts, sometimes, but sometimes they help me when I feel like I need guidance from an outside source. (Much the same way as one who flips open a Bible and feels that the passage they first read is a message from God.)

There are many such cards out there: http://www.aeclectic.net/tarot/cards/goddess-go/ - this set has some inspirational phrases that are self affirming and positive - always a good thing when you're recovering from an A - and they may give you answers from within, moreso than an expensive (and probably fraudulent) psychic hotline would.

Best wishes to you.

Hey, don't be embarrassed HERE for being lost and trying to find an answer. I have seen those ads myself and have been sorely tempted too. Sometimes, we want some answers and just make a wrong turn.

It's all good...L~

Thanks again everyone. I will definitely look into the suggestions and once I return home from TN will look for a new counselor. I admit, when I get the "urge" to consult I turn here or pick up a book. So much is up in the air right now it's hard to know how to cope or what to do. I am trying not to rush into changes or quick decisions but it's hard sometimes. My H and I are supposed to talk about our living arrangements when I return and that seems to be looming over me. As I sit in a hospital room next to my father as he gets chemo I just really taking a break from everything and trying to clear my head. It's good to know I can come here for support. I'll keep you posted on my crazy life.

Just wondering; is there a college for psychics? Do they have some kind of a vision that they are special, or is it just a career choice that makes them worth all of that money?

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