Very, very sorry that you are going through this.

How did you find out? Does he know that you know?

I'm very sorry you have found yourself in this situation. This is a BS's worst nightmare.

You are wise to make a decision to make an exit. But before you do, gather all the physical evidence you can via statements, phone records, etc. You need to protect yourself and will destroy any evidence once he's discovered that you've left.

He will deny as much as he can, as this is what he's been doing all along. Cheaters are liars and they will protect themselves without giving you any consideration. None of this is your fault and I think you must know that. He has a sex addiction and it has nothing to do with you.

I wish you strength and solace.

So sorry to hear you are going through this.

I have just found out my partner has been cheating with prostitutes the whole time we have been together and not using protection with them.

I have seen all the evidence on the website he was using but he still will only admit to bits of it.

He has also been spending tens of thousands doing it but has always been tight with money with me.

It feels like a double betrayal as I am only recently divorced after my husband had affairs and I thought I finally had a decent man.

So sorry both of you, myvision and kathryn83 are dealing with this horrific issue. Of course you know to go get tested for STDs immediately.

I hope you can both find peace and happiness.

Myvision, you are smart to have a plan before confrontation. Protect yourself at all costs.

I found out because my husband bought a new cell phone and gave our 6 year old daughter his old cell phone just so she can play around with it. One day while I was doing laundry she came up to me and said "mommy telephone" and handed me the old cell phone my husband gave her..... (now here is the kicker) when she handed me the phone I took it and she had it on the texts section and all I saw was "how much do you charge" so I continued to read.... "it depends on what you want" was the reply..... "$150" is what they settled on.

I took the telephone completely from my daughter and sat on my bed. I read texts dated from 2012 and 2013 where he negotiate prices with these females and they meet at a hotel. Some of them regulars. The girl would text him and say.... "I will be at such and such hotel on this date and the price is $100, he agrees and they set up times to meet. Other days he was seeking out them and asking to meet at a random hotels.

There it was.... these texts over and over again on his phone. I knew of another old phone he had back in 2011 in a drawer. I ran for it, charged it up and turned it on. To my surprise on the other old phone he had texts there too secretly talking to prostitutes and meeting for sex in exchange for money. I sat on my bed and cried all night. I couldn't believe it. I did not know who he was anymore.

No he does not know that I know. Yes I have gathered all the evidence. I have printed all the cell phone conversations between him and prostitutes, The dates match up from times I can remember him missing.... also he saw one prostitute the week my Mother passed away. I couldn't believe it. He was my rock doing that week. How could he love me so much the week of my Moms passing but sneak off for sex with a prostitute too. I am planing my escape. I will not confront until I have my place and is ready to leave.

Thank you for all replies. Your support means everything, I was in tears after reading the replies. Thanks again for the support!

That is just... Breathtaking. I am soooo sorry for your pain.

Meet with a lawyer and, most important, make plans for MONEY!!

meet with a lawyer, get all the evidence you can, get away form this turd, go for full custody, does he kiss your kids with his filthy mouth

i'm very sorry for your family and you, this turd is unfixable,

I know the pain you are in. It's devastating..and what is worse is that you can't reconcile the man you knew(or thought you knew) with the man who sent those texts and snuck behind your back. I'm actually very surprised he wasn't better at hiding it..he didn't clear the phone before giving it to your daughter? He was in lala land apparently.

My partner like Kathryn's cheated on me with a prostitute. I had just ended a marriage to a compulsive gambler and liar and he knew how vulnerable me and my children were. Jackass.I found the email on an old phone of his. He asked for an outcall later that day. He was at work at the time he sent the message and I was waiting for him to come home so we could go out and enjoy the holiday weekend. I had been suspecting something fishy for a good while, which is why I snooped. I left him but he lied through his teeth and I went back hoping to believe the ridiculous story. He never admitted it and made up such a story to cover his ass.. he never wavered. What I never could figure out was why he fought so hard to keep me around. He seemed passionately invested in our relationship..told me he loved me. He was always there for me. Granted he never did seem to fully be able to fall deeply in love..but all the signs of love were there, if that makes sense.

I don't know if they are incapable of true love..or they are sick ..or what the deal is but I have come to the conclusion it doesn't matter why anymore. What a shame. Just get the heck out because it is a long, long hard road of distrust ahead if you stay.I could never be comfortable or trusting again after that. It's so easy to hide a prostitute fetish, it's different than hiding an affair. Affairs are messy. If you confront him..he will lie and lie and lie some more. They are cowards and not healthy enough to be upfront.

Good luck..be strong ..and again..I know firsthand the pain and confusion you are going through. If you want to message me, feel free.

Thank you all for the support. No he did not clear his phone before giving it to our daughter. That is how comfortable he was with what he was doing. Since I found out I can only look at him with disgust. Its so hard to act like things are normal while planning my escape. I am also following some of the advice of the 180.

I'd have your lawyer make sure you get back every red cent he spent, with interest.

I'd also see if his paycheck could be garnished so you are sure to get child support money.

Hugs.

Don't forget to get fully screened for STD's.

Wishing you peace through this very difficult time in your life.

I can't believe how many people are going through something similar. I thought I was the only one.

It's so hard to understand how he could do this when we were in a new relationship and he was spending most of his time with me.

I feel for everyone going through this

Sending positive thoughts and strength.

Though it's painful and you have a rough road ahead of you, that journey will now be a positive journey no matter how difficult it may seem when starting.

Sounds like you are doing what needs to be done. Plenty of good advice here.

So I'll simply add you deserve better. There's no point to enabling his behavior by staying and sounds like he's not likely to pull out of this dive. No sense on going down with him. Put on the parachute and jump.

I am so sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to you. I think I can understand a little bit of your pain. While my husband's affair person was not a prostitute, it was clearly all for sex. It physically hurts to think there is such a dark secretive side to the person you love the most that you don't even know.