Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Hi there - here is my issue and I am struggling with it and not sure what to do
1. Been with my bf for 2 years - living together for one year. He is a recovering AA and has depression and sleep disorder.
2. Things were amazing up until Jan 2018 - everything went downhill. We started fighting and he stated on 2 separate occasions that we were not sure he wanted to be in this relationship. He also stated it to his sister who mentioned it to me. He also mentioned that he is not ready to be a stepdad to my 11 year old son. He lives rent free and helps around the house. Our relationship has been very rocky and unstable for me.
3. He hides his phone and is always in his pocket or face down when we are watching tv and I hear the texts come in even at the we hours of the morning. I caught him on match and he has the iphone 10 - so when I do look at it I see texts from women.
4. I have confronted him about everything he states " he isn't cheating or talking to girls" I asked about the phone and he said it is private- where he has the passcodes to mine. I have nothing to hide.
5. He never goes out but you can cheat during the day or on his many business trips- I also found condoms in his gym bag - he states they have been in there forever but I went through it and I have not seen them. I also confronted him about that - he said he would throw them out but I don't think he has.
Bottom line I love him and want to stay with him by my heart hurts because I don't believe him and not sure how what to do and how to deal with this. My therapist said they replace one addictive behavior for another ... so heartbroken and sad.
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So mad at Xfinity! They're trying to charge me $115 per month for the same service I had been paying $50 the last four years. I took the equipment to UPS for shipping and cancelled my subscription today! Next door was a cookie shop called Crumbl. I had heard of it before but never went in until today. I don't need one more sugar fix, but maybe it will help with my sad) grieving heart....$15...
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I'm feeling down,, and got alot on my mind right now. I got grief going on, on top my depression and anxiety and now I got to worry about somewhere to live since I can't afford living here since my mom passed. So many bad things have happened since my mom passed. One thing after another it seems. Yesterday our fence fell from a storm that hit, had to call someone to prop it up. Thank...
Progression from this morning he has apologized for the text and being grumpy - but an apology means nothing to me- it was not sincere. I realize that he will not change or put the effort required in repairing this relationship or himself.
Nor is he the type to shower me with words and actions to get back into my good graces - he would have done so already. Reality is hard to deal with but the truth is " He does not love or care for me" I have accepted it and I need to move on.
I will ask him politely to leave and make alternate living arrangements - if he hasn't started to do so already. No one can force someone to be faithful- I realize your relationship may be perfect - if a man or women wants to cheat they will.
Good Luck to ya <3 HUgs.
...Nobody loves me....I have no one/where to go to.....this is going to make my depression worse......I'm going to kill myself if you leave me.....
None of this is your responsibility.
He uses people. Leeches on your arm aren't giving you a hug....they just get close to suck the life out of you.
All he said is he doesn't want to fight anymore.... or the rest of the week or the year. He understands what I want and expects... he didn't say he is leaving or staying or whatever. I just told him I'm not doing this anymore and that was pretty much it...
If not, it's proof that he knows how to work you, doesn't he? But then again, I'm sure he gets a lot of practice sweet talking you.
And believe me, I'm not "blaming" you for his cheating. But, until you realize enable his treatment of you with every time you believe his lies and take him back, you will continue to be the "blameless victim" of his cheating.
Hate to say it sab001 but you caved. He is successfully gas lighting you to the point you deny the reality of what you already know. You are enabling him at this point because he has suffered no consequences.
He continues to deny the obvious cheating and you let him stay in your house.
What exactly do you want him to improve on? He hasn't even had the ball to admit he has done something wrong......and you have him red handed with condoms and match.com.
You don't ask someone to leave......you tell them. Refusal either results in a police call or changed locks and everything dumped outside the home the next time he leaves.