Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I found out my husband was cheating on my with a girl from his gym. He went on a date with her and came home without his ring on. That's the only way I found out. He told me he was with a friend but after I started to question why he took his ring off he finally told me. I feel completely betrayed and angry. He says he stopped talking to her and has had no connection since I found out. He left that gym and hasn't been back. I want to work things out and have gone to counselors which help but I can't help it when I get angry. I have been physically and mentally abusive to him after this all happened even gave him a black eye. I feel so much guilt after the abuse but again when I'm feeling so angry it's like none of that matters. I need help. When I'm feeling rage I want him to say all the right things and when he doesn't it makes me so angry and I act out. I feel so low about myself because of this but I don't know how to control this. Any advice?
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I'm horrified! I knew my insurance would go up due to getting a new car but I didn't expect it to go up over $2,000. I did have an accident with the snow/ice in the winter. I was just telling my brother that I have had my car since March 2, 2026 and have only spent $75 on an oil change. Now this! I called another insurance company and their quote was over $4,000. I guess I have to pay...
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Tell him how you feel. It is important that he understands the consequences of his actions.
The next step is on you. You got him back, don't go pushing him away.
As StormPetrel said, you can't attack him physically. Can YOU join that gym and take some kick boxing classes and pretend the boxing dummy is him, or that it's the other woman? :) Seriously. So you can take your aggressions out on something safely. And, get in darn good shape while you're at it :) And.... also to make sure he is not still going to that gym.
Counselor will help you with exercises in terms of appropriate and productive communication. I get the sense there were communication issues from both side before the affair issue came about.
Look forward, not back. I had to stop asking. We needed to switch from crisis mode to recovery mode. But he had to stop play defense. He had to take responsibility for our relationship. Relationships don’t survive on their own. It takes work from both sides. You both need to know what the other needs to feel safe in the relationship. Communication is important, sometimes actions speak louder than words.
The gym is a great place to work out your anger.. sleep is another thing. I couldn’t sleep for anything. I went to the doctor and got something to help with that.