I found out my husband was cheating on my with a girl from his gym. He went on a date with her and came home without his ring on. That's the only way I found out. He told me he was with a friend but after I started to question why he took his ring off he finally told me. I feel completely betrayed and angry. He says he stopped talking to her and has had no connection since I found out. He left that gym and hasn't been back. I want to work things out and have gone to counselors which help but I can't help it when I get angry. I have been physically and mentally abusive to him after this all happened even gave him a black eye. I feel so much guilt after the abuse but again when I'm feeling so angry it's like none of that matters. I need help. When I'm feeling rage I want him to say all the right things and when he doesn't it makes me so angry and I act out. I feel so low about myself because of this but I don't know how to control this. Any advice?
After 15 years together and 13 married with two children involved, I found out my husband had an affair and even after that kept looking for a side piece. I am at a total loss. I gave everything to my marriage and kids. I have lost my sense of self. I have been crying non-stop but at the same time still thinking of catering to him. I'm pissed but after 15 years I need to start putting me first...