Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I never understood the need for the OW to out the H , espiecally 1. if she new he was married from the beginning 2. or if she didnt, , why didnt she just walk away, these are just random questions I've pondered for years since finding out about my own Husbands cheating. The Sandra Bullock case where the circus freak needed to make a bad situation worse, Ive heard all kinds of answers, read all I could find on cheating , the other woman ..... etc.. it wasn'tt until I found out about somenoe close to me who busted up another friends marriage, I made a flip comment about "Why did she do that, why didnt she just disappear when she found out Jesse James was lying to her, " speaking of Machelle McCGhee,"WHy did she feel the need to tell "HER SIDE" of the story,, and my friend retorted 'I dont blame her ,why should he go back to his wife and be happy and I sit here miserable and used " is that what it boils down to ,revenge? I told my friend you got involved with a married man, what did you expect? ( I didnt know any of this till I was dragged into it) I told her all the stuff he told her was lies.
It was such an odd experience for me, the whole time I was reeling from my H's A< and my friend helped me through it ,she was doing this to someone else.here we were /are Best friends for 20 plus years, divided, I being spouse who was cheated on and she the OW, no she didnt sleep with my H, we locked horns, not matter how many times i told he 'hes not going to leave his wife for you, she said well if he didnt she would make it miserable on both of them, then started the FB/MySpace/Email war. I watched my friend go from a kind intelligent gentile woman, to someone I didnt even know anymore, even stooping to fabricating photos, I felt at times I was in a Lifetime movie. She was driving the wife into a nervous breakdown, and in my own case my H ow tried to do the same thing, but sending me emails and leaving voicemails talking about what they had done together. Then one night while we were out , at a concert, we'd been drinking and she made a omission to me, by this time she had backed off considerable , prollyl b/c I wouldnt let up on her and threatened to end our friendship over it ,she told me it became more of a game to her, she didnt really love him, she just didnt like the fact that he blew her off and kicked her to the curb once his wife found out ,this goes back to when we were in HS,, she never been dumped before, And My H OW said the same thing, she was mad b/c she got kicked to the curb, so its just a game to these people? the thrill of the hunt? And our friendship has never been the same,
It was such an odd experience for me, the whole time I was reeling from my H's A< and my friend helped me through it ,she was doing this to someone else.here we were /are Best friends for 20 plus years, divided, I being spouse who was cheated on and she the OW, no she didnt sleep with my H, we locked horns, not matter how many times i told he 'hes not going to leave his wife for you, she said well if he didnt she would make it miserable on both of them, then started the FB/MySpace/Email war. I watched my friend go from a kind intelligent gentile woman, to someone I didnt even know anymore, even stooping to fabricating photos, I felt at times I was in a Lifetime movie. She was driving the wife into a nervous breakdown, and in my own case my H ow tried to do the same thing, but sending me emails and leaving voicemails talking about what they had done together. Then one night while we were out , at a concert, we'd been drinking and she made a omission to me, by this time she had backed off considerable , prollyl b/c I wouldnt let up on her and threatened to end our friendship over it ,she told me it became more of a game to her, she didnt really love him, she just didnt like the fact that he blew her off and kicked her to the curb once his wife found out ,this goes back to when we were in HS,, she never been dumped before, And My H OW said the same thing, she was mad b/c she got kicked to the curb, so its just a game to these people? the thrill of the hunt? And our friendship has never been the same,
So spineless I am NOT..... But thanks for the "help" I think I will pass!
People get mixed up in who they are when they are with someone else. When some one else is their focus. They dont focus on who they are and what they want or even their purpose for being on earth in the first place. They focus on how good things feel around them. If they feel especially good around a particular person, they like to be around that person. Sometimes they make a vow, before God, in a church, that what they have will last forever. Sometimes they make a vow, before God, in a church, because they had to.
I never got married because I had to. I married 3 times for love. I never cheated on any man I was married to. No man I was married to dislikes me or wouldnt re-marry me. I am not with them because, though I still love them, there is a point to draw the line and walk away. It may not be clearly defined in the Bible but, some things dont work.
I dont know why you got married or why you had another baby and stayed married. I dont know you at all but I think your life would be better served alone or with a different man. The one you are with, no matter what it was one time documentation you have, has broken you spine.
I dont believe I asked anyone to "help me move on". I am very happy to be married to my h. He cheated yes, once and he did everything I could possibly ask of him to help heal me and our marriage since. I dont need to move on. Im aallll good. I only posted about the OW because it was the subject in this thread. Her being a freaking crazy nut has nothing to do with what he is doing or done. She is just off her rocker.
If you dont think a marriage can ever be healed if infidelity occurs that is certainly your prerogative. I would suggest you not try to heal it. But I dont happen to believe this to be the case. I think it is a case by case thing based on the marriage itself and the people involved. So being completely closed minded is NOT helpful, sorry.
But more than anything read the post first. That shouldnt be too much to ask should it? Or was it too much to expect you to see the difference in the words EX and H?
Very well put. Preach it. Dont feed the negitive. And, copy this and make a new topic here. It is refreshing to see people get past all this mess and move on.
@ Crazymoon...
"she was mad b/c she got kicked to the curb, so its just a game to these people? the thrill of the hunt? "
>>>>>"Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned".